Everyone wants to be in relationships, but no one wants to work through the ups and downs. Love isn’t easy like everyone seems to think nowadays… You can’t love someone if you can’t accept him or her at their worst and best. So here are the 10 reasons why relationships don’t work anymore.
1) Fighting over everything rather than talking problems out.
Fights are going to happen whether you’re happy or not in a relationship. It’s just part of love and human nature. But it’s important to cool down, and then sit down and talk to each other. Talking things out is the BEST thing you can do.
2) Waiting until things get too bad before talking to each other.
You should NEVER let things get bottled up because it’s only going to explode and make everything worse. It’s easy to think your significant other is only going to get mad or not listen. But how will you know if you don’t even try? Maybe, this one time will work and everything will be great again.
3) It’s all about he said, she said game.
You know the whole blaming each other thing you do when you’re talking to others about the problems in your relationship. Well, every story has more than one side. You know for a fact both of you are making each other look bad because you’re mad each other. He said she said games must stop if you want a relationship.
4) Never let things stay in the past.
Let it go! Let it go!
It’s so unhealthy to hold on the past. You’re never going to move forward in a relationship if you’re stuck on what happened months ago. You must talk than work on letting things go. You’ll be so much happier with each other.
5) The couple deciding to take too many breaks from each other.
Breaks can either break or make a relationship. Things get rocky once you decide to go on more than one break because at this point you’re already thinking about what life would be like without each other. You’re starting to think maybe you shouldn’t be together because your heart isn’t in the relationship anymore. Well at least, it can’t be since you’re thinking about not being together anymore.
6) If you decide to get back together, then rip each other apart for what happened during the break.
Back to #4, it’s in the past so let it go. Plus, you two weren’t even together so if something happened it’s in the past now. You will never move on if you continuously bring up a time you weren’t together. You’re trying to work things out, not make things worst.
7) Talking to everyone else about the problems in the relationship rather than each other.
Everyone is guilty of this because as humans we would rather talk about things to others than to the actual person. It’s sad but true. It’s okay to admit you do that, but it needs to stop. While you’re busy talking to someone else about your problems, things are piling up and getting worse right in front of your eyes. Then when you’re finally ready to talk, it could be too late and unfixable.
8) If you don’t communicate with each other there is a high possibility one of you is going to fall for someone else.
You put all your energy into talking to a friend about your problems rather than talking to your significant other will make him or her move on. You never worked things out after telling each other you weren’t happy because you were too worried about your feelings instead of communicating. So someone else will end up giving him or her the love and attention you neglected to do for too long.
9) Talking about how you’re not happy and shutting out each other rather than working on how to make each other happy.
What if you talked and everything was fine afterward, but the very next day things when back to the way they were before the talk. You shut each other out. You never truly made an effort to listen to the conversation. You can’t be happy if don’t remember to change what made each other miserable in the first place.
10) Promising to work things out, but only for a short point of time and then letting things go downhill again.
What if you promise to work on your relationship and truly make an effort for a few weeks then you’re back to falling apart? It’s as simple as picking up the pieces and remembering what made you two happy before. That’s really the only thing you can do so things don’t go bad again. But you need to both want to make things work, a relationship isn’t one-sided. It’s two people working together towards staying happy.
Seriously though, what happened to make up sex fixing everything? Couples must be forgetting about makeup sex or doing it wrong because that’s supposed to connect them after a fight. Makeup sex doesn’t make you want to go on breaks or fall out of love. It reminds you of how much you love each other and rekindles your relationship after fighting with each other.
It’s time to focus on each other, have makeup sex more often, and work things out. Because that is what commitment is all about. Committing to someone and their flaws but making sure you work through them anyway.
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