There are certain things that you or your partner should NOT ask of each other. Having good communication between you and your partner can alleviate some of these issues. Once you let someone take control of your life, it’s hard to regain control.
- To accept abuse
If your partner is abusive, he should never ask you to be loyal, or expect your love.
- To be like someone else
If he ever says “Why can’t you be like her” that should be a deal breaker. Obviously he doesn’t like you for who you really are.
- Be the go-between for family members
If he is not adult enough to handle or resolve family conflicts, it’s not your responsibility to do it for him.
- To choose between him or your mother
If your partner is asking you to choose between him and a family member that’s a big problem. You can accept that animosity exists between a family member and your partner, and decide on your own to take sides, but your partner should never ask you to choose one relationship over the other.
- To cover for their addiction
You will only be enabling them if you lie to cover up for their addictions. You will become part of the problem, and you are not helping the situation.
- To ditch your bestie
If your partner has a problem with one of your friends, it’s okay for him to voice his concerns, but that’s it. He should never ask you to stop being friends with one of your friends, especially if the friendship precedes the relationship.
- To face fears you’re not ready to confront