It’s not you, it’s me…
Are all your friends getting engaged, married or entering into some kind of a committed relationship while the only huge decision you’ve made is whether you should spend Thanksgiving watching reruns of Sex and the City or the Walking Dead?
You are not single because you are a boring, annoying, ugly, self-entitled bitch. Nah. You are a fun loving, hardworking and sociable person. So why are you single yet men are lining up waiting to marry you and have babies with you? It’s because you are a commitment phobe and these 8 signs will prove that you are:
The thought of having to give up control of your destiny and your life makes you shudder. You are used to living a certain lifestyle that it becomes difficult for anyone to live up to your expectations. People in relationships sometimes make sacrifices in order to make their partners happy but you can’t see yourself doing that.
There’s something about a guy who’s taken that just makes you want to go after him even more. Available guys just turn you off but when you find out they are married, your interest in them peaks. And it’s not just guys who are unavailable that you gravitate towards. You go for guys you know you can’t have a real relationship with.
For instance, you will date a guy who doesn’t believe in sticking to one girl. The moment he starts acting as if he is interested in making you his main girl, you break up with him citing that he’s a player and you can’t enter into a long term relationship with a guy like that.
Every girl has standards, some high, some low. But your standards are way up there and you refuse to lower the bar just a little. You have a long list of requirements that every guy must meet and you completely refuse to commit to him if he doesn’t check all the boxes.
What the heck is a love trap anyway?
Well, if you fall for the same type of guys repeatedly, knowingly or unknowingly, you are in a love trap. If you follow the same patterns when dating guys, you are in a love trap. So now, do you get what a love trap is? Good. We’ll now explain to you the different kinds of love traps.
You’ve known this guy since you were five years old. You grew up on the same street, went to the same school together and you’ve never dated anyone else but him. He has played you, treated you like dirt, you’ve broken up a gazillion times but somehow you find yourself back together with him.
Why this is a love trap? Because you insist on sticking to some guy who is obviously taking you for granted. Go out there and find out what the world has to offer.
Your first date with this guy was so great that you started imagining spending the rest of your life with him.
This is a love trap because first dates are never an actual representation of what the person is really like. He could be a criminal or a player. The first date is like a job interview….you only get one chance to blow your interviewer away. In this case, you are the interviewer and your date is the interviewee.
You start dating this guy only to realize that he is in a serious committed relationship or he is married but instead of breaking up with him, you start justifying why the two of you were meant to be.
Why is this a love trap? Because you keep forgetting that he isn’t your man. He is taken and you are holding on to forbidden fruits. And by the way, karma is a bitch…if you break up a happy relationship be prepared for it to come back and bite you in the ass.
How many times have you heard women say that they are looking for a financially stable man? There’s nothing wrong with wanting a man who can provide for his family but is that the only thing you need in a relationship?
We have all come across a narcissist at some point in our lives, but not all narcissists are the same. Here are seven different types of narcissism. Which ones have you encountered?
1. The Winner
This narcissist must “win” at everything; even the smallest action becomes a competition. Whether it’s sports, career achievements, academics, or who can eat the most chicken wings, this narcissist needs to be better than everyone else. This type of narcissist revels in having the hottest wife or girlfriend, the smartest kid, drive the coolest car or live in the trendiest house. They are never happy for a friend’s good fortune. In the narcissist’s eyes, another person’s success is their failure, and their self-esteem takes a huge hit. They may become antagonistic, or try to overcompensate by downplaying or belittling the achievements of others.
2. The Victim
This narcissist is the most conniving. They are master manipulators who use affection and emotion to keep you close to them. Their sob story has been perfected over the years, and this narcissist will easily convince you that the world is out to get them, that they are a victim. This narcissist takes no responsibility for any misfortune in their lives; it’s always someone else’s fault. They have no remorse when using blame and guilt to get what they want from others. A victim narcissist will become vengeful if things don’t go their way.
3. The Know-It-All
This narcissist is the most annoying. They believe they are more intelligent than anyone around them. They treat their opinions as fact and become deeply offended if you dare to disagree with them. This narcissist often preaches, but rarely listen. They will offer unsolicited advice to family, friends, colleagues, even strangers. The know-it-all narcissist feels that they have nothing to learn from others and will demean and belittle anyone not “smart enough” to comprehend their brilliance.
4. The Puppet Master