Has somebody wronged you in a way that you find hard to forgive?
Are you holding on to resentment and anger? These types of emotions have a way of controlling us. Would you like to learn to not live in a constant state of hatred or resentment? The answer lies in forgiveness.
When you think of forgiveness, you may be inclined to think that you would be doing it for the benefit of the person against whom you hold resentment. The fact is that forgiveness is the only way to achieve serenity and peace of mind. How many times in a day do you think about the wrong done to you? How often do you think about something you would say or do to get back at the person who wronged you? The reality is that you are allowing another person to control your emotional state of being.
When you forgive another person, you’re not telling them that what they did was okay. Perhaps you have suffered a real tragedy at the hands of another person. Forgiveness is about your being able to let go of strong feelings that dominate you. When you forgive another person you are taking charge of your life and making the decision not to let another person ‘rent free space in your head’.
How to Forgive
There are many ways to forgive an individual. One way is to examine a situation and see if you played a part. You may have done things to harm another individual and they retaliated, causing way more damage than you anticipated. This isn’t always the case, however. There are times in which tragedy strikes and you have done nothing to cause or provoke what was done to you. In times like these, the best way to achieve forgiveness is through prayer.
You may have a problem with prayer for whatever reason. You may have been turned off by organized religion while you were a child. You may have prayed for certain results and cursed God for not delivering your specific requests. The good news is that you don’t have to pray to a God of anybody else’s design. You don’t even have to have a specific image of what God is to you. Furthermore, you don’t even need to mean what you are saying. In fact, you probably won’t at first.
No matter what your religious or spiritual convictions are, you can find forgiveness in your heart with prayer. Consider everything you want out of life and pray that the person who harmed you receives all these gift. Pray for his well-being, success in life, peace of mind, good fortune, and true happiness. As it was mentioned earlier, you most likely will not mean it.
You may say your first prayer through gritted teeth. You may be praying like this for the first week or so of trying this method. After about two weeks of consistent prayer, however, you will find that you have come to mean it. You will feel the hatred in your heart subside, and you will once again be in the sunlight of the spirit – open to receive all the great gifts that life has in store for you.
Boobs or butt?
It’s a common debate man have tackled for years, probably centuries. A woman with a full bosom or “junk in the trunk.” Which is more desirable? Truthfully, most men will tell you they love both, but there’s inarguably something particularly alluring to the male population about a woman’s behind. So what gives? Why are backsides just so darn appealing to the male species? You may be surprised to find the answer lies in science.
Why Men Love Butts
A prominent derrière – or more aptly, the curved spine it’s connected to – held an important significance to our nomadic ancestors.
Eric Russell, a psychologist at the University of Texas at Arlington, says “Over the course of human history, women faced the adaptive problem of a forwarded-shifted center of mass during pregnancy.” Russell wrote, “”Women with a greater degree of lumbar curvature … were able to redistribute this center of mass to reduce the strain of pregnancy. Thus, we hypothesized that men should have a psychological adaptation to prefer these women as mating partners.”
A study conducted by a team of psychologists at Bilkent University in Turkey asked 300 men to rate female silhouettes with lumbar curvatures between 21 and 61 degrees. A moderate curvature of 45.5 degrees was the most favored, and further research explained that women with that level of curvature would have conferred with the evolutionary advantages mentioned earlier without preventing a higher risk for health problems, namely back troubles.
The most important revelation of the study was that the structure of the spine itself, not just the fat and muscle of the buttocks, was integral to a man’s level of attraction toward a woman’s rear.
The study’s lead author, psychologist Doctor David Lewis, explained that while men may direct their attention to the buttocks and insist that’s where their interest lies, they are unconsciously gathering information about the curvature of a woman’s spine. “Alternatively, men may have preferences for both lumbar curvature and buttock size. Future research is needed to better understand the latter,” said Dr. Lewis.
The study was published on February 7th, 2015 in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior.
So there you have it. The real reason why he can’t take his eyes off you when you’re in your favorite pair of body-hugging jeans. What’s your stance on the situation? Is it really just a matter of science, or have the survival implications been bred out over generations and left men with a senseless but strong love for our tushes?
by Chrissy K