What the heck is a love trap anyway?
Well, if you fall for the same type of guys repeatedly, knowingly or unknowingly, you are in a love trap. If you follow the same patterns when dating guys, you are in a love trap. So now, do you get what a love trap is? Good. We’ll now explain to you the different kinds of love traps.
- The destiny love trap
You’ve known this guy since you were five years old. You grew up on the same street, went to the same school together and you’ve never dated anyone else but him. He has played you, treated you like dirt, you’ve broken up a gazillion times but somehow you find yourself back together with him.
Why this is a love trap? Because you insist on sticking to some guy who is obviously taking you for granted. Go out there and find out what the world has to offer.
- First date love trap
Your first date with this guy was so great that you started imagining spending the rest of your life with him.
This is a love trap because first dates are never an actual representation of what the person is really like. He could be a criminal or a player. The first date is like a job interview….you only get one chance to blow your interviewer away. In this case, you are the interviewer and your date is the interviewee.
- The affair love trap
You start dating this guy only to realize that he is in a serious committed relationship or he is married but instead of breaking up with him, you start justifying why the two of you were meant to be.
Why is this a love trap? Because you keep forgetting that he isn’t your man. He is taken and you are holding on to forbidden fruits. And by the way, karma is a bitch…if you break up a happy relationship be prepared for it to come back and bite you in the ass.
- The provider love trap
How many times have you heard women say that they are looking for a financially stable man? There’s nothing wrong with wanting a man who can provide for his family but is that the only thing you need in a relationship?
Why is this a love trap? Well, apart from money, what else does your man have going on? Is he a great lover, is he emotionally invested in the relationship? Does he keep his promises?
- The handsome man love trap
Outside beauty doesn’t matter, what matters is the beauty inside. Yeah, right! Forget all that. You want a man who will make every woman in the room jealous of you.
Why is this a love trap? Just like the guy with money, what else does Mr. Handsome have going on apart from his looks?
- Emotionally invested love trap
You have invested so much time and effort into your relationship that when your man plays you or disrespects you repeatedly, you willingly forgive him.
Why is this a love trap? Girl, a good relationship is the result of teamwork. Your man should bring 100% into the relationship and so should you. But if you are always investing 100% into the relationship and the man only invests 5%, maybe you should stop dating the same types of guys.
- Mind blowing sex love trap
It’s hard to find someone you can connect with emotionally and have good sex with. So when you find a guy who is good in bed, you hold on to him tight.
Why is this a love trap? Because you can teach someone how to be good in bed but you can’t teach them how to emotionally connect with you. If the two of you don’t connect, then you just don’t connect. Don’t force it.
- The better than nothing love trap
You are afraid of being alone. You believe only a man can make you happy so you jump from one relationship to another because God forbid you ever find yourself alone during the weekend.
Why is this a love trap? You are willing to settle for anything as long as it means you won’t be alone, and you will sacrifice your standards just to have someone in your life.
Can you relate to any of these love traps? Watch out for the next post because we’ll tell you how to get out of a love trap.
by Jackie Kalyonge