You’d think that an alpha female would want an alpha male, right?
They’d be a perfect match for each other since they are both hardworking, confident, intelligent, go-getters and strong-willed. But, this may not be necessarily true. Both alpha males and females are competitive, and there’s a high chance this might interfere with what’s best for their relationship.
Since it would take a lot for two alphas to make a relationship work, it would only make sense if the alpha female got into a relationship with a submissive man, also known as an omega. The omega would let the woman take the lead in the relationship. He would agree with the alpha woman’s decisions all the time. Sounds like the perfect combination, right? Wrong! Yes, yes, we know what you’re thinking…Opposites attract, but in this case, it’s just a recipe for disaster.
Alpha females don’t need a submissive man or an alpha male. What they need is a combination of qualities in a man. Here are some of the qualities you should be looking for in a man if you are an alpha female
1. He should give you room to grow
As an alpha female, you prefer to tackle your problems head-on. You don’t have time for whining and complaining about your problems. You also know that to grow and achieve your goals you need your space. Your man should give you enough room to chase after your dreams.
2. He knows when to have your back
Alpha women need help every once in a while. A man dating an alpha woman should know when his woman needs him to step in and help her. And even when he offers a helping hand it should be to give her inspiration to find a solution not to solve the problem for her. That’s the key to balancing a relationship.
3. He shouldn’t get intimidated
You should look for a man who celebrates your success instead of getting jealous or threatened by it. When you are at the office party, and guys start hitting on you, he wouldn’t start acting like a raging idiot because he would know you have limits and boundaries. He knows the last thing you would do is to leave him for some office flirt.
4. He doesn’t mind teaching you and learning from you
Of course, as an alpha female, you like teaching. You are your own boss; a leader. But you also need to be humble and willing to learn from your man. Besides, you don’t know everything.
5. He isn’t afraid to call you out
You might be the head bitch in charge, but when you do some BS, he’s not afraid to tell you. You can scream about your incompetent assistant all you want, but when you start screaming at him, he will call you out. More importantly, he knows how to handle you at your worst.
6. He should have his own goals
The last thing you need in your life is a man without ambition. He shouldn’t just sit there and wait for you to achieve your goals and dreams; he too should be working on his success. He shouldn’t be satisfied being a sidekick to your big life plans.
7. He should be able to handle your assertiveness
Alpha females are not as nurturing or sensitive as we all would like. They are not heartless or robotic either. But for a man to have a successful relationship with an alpha woman, he needs to have some thick skin. In short, he has to be able to handle your blunt nature.
8. He knows when to drop it and when to address it
When a guy knows he is right, he will stand his ground, but when wrong, he will acknowledge it and apologize. He knows that you are strong-willed and there are bound to be differences in opinion from time to time. But he should be smart enough to know which issues to pursue and which ones to drop.
Alpha females are constantly misunderstood, and it might be a challenge for them to find the right man. But when they find a man with all the qualities mentioned here, they treasure him dearly.
– Char Brown