We’ve all been looked at like “poor girl”
when someone finds out that you’re single. The look that says what’s wrong with you? Why don’t you have a man? A lot of people just don’t think it’s possible or even normal to be single and happy.
To avoid that dismaying look, some women will languish in less than satisfying relationships so that they don’t have to say they are single. The good news is that more and more women just don’t give a damn about what you think of their romantic life. And refuse to stay in relationships that are stressful, have no possibility of going to the next level, or are just plain boring, to satisfy someone else.
Here are eight reasons some women remain single:
1. You’re not ready for a commitment
You just aren’t ready to commit. You like the excitement of dating without the pressure of being in a committed relationship. You are upfront with guys so there won’t be any confusion or drama when they don’t hear from you for weeks or months on end. You are happy playing the field and not ready to settle down.
2. You’re focused on your career
While others have a job, you have a career, and it’s important to you to focus on that and go as far as you can in it. Without a steady man in your life, you’re free to work late or weekends if necessary. You can take extended business trips without worrying about a partner. This freedom can lead to promotions, higher pay, and an in with your boss.
3. You don’t like answering to someone
If you want to spend $300 on a pair of killer boots, buy the latest tech gadgets, or take a spur of the moment trip out of town, you only have you to answer to. No looks of disapproval for spending your hard earned money however you want. No hurt feelings for failing to include someone in your plans, and no questions to answer when you return.
4. You don’t give a damn about your biological clock
In fact, when others bring it up, you just laugh. Really? The only reason you ever look at the clock is to see how many more drinks you can get before happy hour is over. Do you want children? Maybe, but you’re not going to let your clock be a factor for getting into a committed relationship.
5. You don’t have time for someone else’s problems
Being in a relationship means dealing with someone else’s crap, and you just don’t have time for that. You don’t have the emotional capacity or desire to take on the added responsibility of being dragged into unnecessary drama.
6. You refuse to settle for mediocre
Whether it’s for another human being or a job that you know you’re better than — you just refuse to settle in any way. Since that’s the case, you sure as hell aren’t going to waste your time being with someone who doesn’t live up to your standards.
7. You need to work on YOU
Many times after a bad breakup you just need to work on yourself for a while. Get your mind right, rediscover your self-worth. You can’t do that if you jump from one relationship to another without first analyzing what went wrong and how to prevent the chance of future heartbreak. Being single gives you time to reflect, grow, and determine what you want from a relationship.
8. You’re happy!
Plain and simple – you’re happy with the way things are in your life without a partner. You can count on yourself to get things done, you can pleasure yourself better than most men, your financial house is in order, and you have wonderful friends. You are not stressed out about what your partner may or may not be doing. You are not bored with life but are living it to the fullest and enjoying your single status. -Lisa P.