You don’t have a problem getting into a relationship but you don’t ever see things lasting very long. You only date for fun. You don’t have a problem with getting into an open relationship either or sleeping around even when you are in a relationship.
- You justify being single
You subscribe to ideals like “with all these people in the world, there has to be more than one soulmate for me” or “Life is short, why should you spend the rest of your life tied down to one person?”
- You believe your failed relationships aren’t your fault
If a relationship fails, it’s because the guy was a looser, he expected too much, he was going too fast, he was going too slow or he wasn’t the one. If you’ve dated a number of guys and all your relationships were shorter than an Instagram video then the problem isn’t with them it’s with you.
- You like making excuses
When a guy you are dating brings up the subject of having kids, getting married or eventually settling down, you immediately change the topic. Whenever he wants you to meet his folks, you find all sorts of excuses not to or when he wants to meet yours, you avoid setting a date. Actually, you even disappear for a few days hoping he’ll forget all about solidifying your relationship to a more serious status.
- The chase is more fun for you
Getting into a serious relationship and eventually getting married sounds boring. You’d rather chase after the guys and get a kick out of it. However, once you get the guy you’ve been chasing after, you lose interest.
It’s perfectly okay to admit you have commitment issues. We all have them sometimes especially when we’ve been hurt before or we are unsure about the guy we love. What’s not normal is thinking that it’s okay to live the rest of your life with a chip on your shoulder. Get your shit together, try to move on from whatever is making you have commitment issues and settle down.