I don’t know about you, but when I think of being hypnotized, I think of someone swinging a pocket watch back and forth in front of my face. Like in the cartoons. Or someone planting harmful suggestions in my head. Like in the movie “Get Out.”
The truth is an object to stare at is not needed to hypnotize someone. It’s just as easy to use visual stimulation to put someone under.
For years hypnosis has been used as a form of entertainment. Who hasn’t seen someone under the influence prance around like a ballerina, or quack like a duck for everyone’s amusement? But there is a more serious side to hypnosis.
As it turns out, hypnosis is used to treat all kinds of conditions, and it can improve your health in many different ways.
First things first, the hypnosis you see in the movies is not like that in real life as assured by the North Carolina Society of Clinical Hypnosis.
They note that hypnosis is a natural state of selective, focused attention. And even though it is 100% natural and normal, it remains a fascinating phenomenon of the human mind. Our ability to enter this unique state of consciousness opens the door to countless possibilities for healing, self-exploration, and change.
Here are some of the benefits of opening your mind and being hypnotized:
1. Kicking bad habits
Since being hypnotized allows you to be more suggestible than usual, there is evidence that it can help you quit bad habits like smoking or drinking.
WebMD explains that a session will usually involve a hypnotherapist creating a negative connotation with the experience of smoking. For example, having an extremely dry mouth after you smoke a cigarette, which may deter you from smoking.
So if you have a vice you can’t kick, hypnosis might be worth a try.
2. Relieve hot flashes
Menopausal women, or any woman who has suffered from hot flashes, know that it’s worth going to almost any length to control them.
It’s not just for grandma!
People who have been knitting, crocheting, lace-making, and doing string-based crafts have known that these hobbies are therapeutic for years.
Back in the day, knitting was necessary for making warm clothing and blankets; now it’s a craft that people of all ages enjoy and consider fun.
But it’s more than making scarfs, string art, and doilies, there are actually many health-boosting benefits. As it turns out there are mental, physical, and emotional benefits to picking up needles, and string.
Most people who knit not only do it for the awesome projects they produce but to relax and tune out the stress of the day. It’s soothing, while still being productive.
So don’t be afraid to pick up yarn, lace, or a string-based craft and start working on some Christmas gifts!
In case you need more convincing, check out the benefits you’ll be getting by breaking out the crochet needle.
1. Lowers heart rate and blood pressure
If you knit or crochet, you probably know how relaxed you feel after wrapping up a good session which is not only relaxing but healthy.
Relaxation lowers levels of stress hormone cortisol, which, in excess, is harmful to the heart and circulatory system, and stress can cause all kinds of other nasty health problems, too.
2. Keeps fingers nimble
Knitting and crocheting require a number of small, precise movements, often executed rapidly. This repeated exercise is great for keeping the finger joints flexible and the muscles in the hands toned and steady.
It might seem counterintuitive, but keeping the fingers moving by knitting is excellent for maintaining mobility in those with arthritis. Just make sure you don’t overdo it and take plenty of stretch breaks.
3. Improves math skills
Knitting, crocheting, lacemaking, and many string-based crafts are all about counting, multiplying, measuring, and patterning. These are all math skills.
People look to enhance their lives by adding the company of a stable, confident and emotionally uncomplicated person. No one wants to be around someone who is constantly giving off negative vibes because of their low self-esteem. Who wants to constantly be on an emotional roller-coaster because their partner lacks confidence and is always jealous or insecure?
Before you can have a successful long-term, healthy relationship, you have to be secure in your own skin. Someone who sees the value of their self-worth will not accept being disrespected by their partner or any other person. Small issues that pose no problem in a relationship between two self-assured people can grow into an erupting volcano when one partner feels insure due to prior experiences.
A partner coming home later than expected, failing to return a phone call or text, talking to a pretty co-worker, or just giving your female friend a compliment, can send someone with low self-esteem through the roof. A woman who is confident and knows her value will not start drama over innocent occurrences.
We’ve all been looked at like “poor girl”
when someone finds out that you’re single. The look that says what’s wrong with you? Why don’t you have a man? A lot of people just don’t think it’s possible or even normal to be single and happy.
To avoid that dismaying look, some women will languish in less than satisfying relationships so that they don’t have to say they are single. The good news is that more and more women just don’t give a damn about what you think of their romantic life. And refuse to stay in relationships that are stressful, have no possibility of going to the next level, or are just plain boring, to satisfy someone else.
Here are eight reasons some women remain single:
1. You’re not ready for a commitment
You just aren’t ready to commit. You like the excitement of dating without the pressure of being in a committed relationship. You are upfront with guys so there won’t be any confusion or drama when they don’t hear from you for weeks or months on end. You are happy playing the field and not ready to settle down.
2. You’re focused on your career
While others have a job, you have a career, and it’s important to you to focus on that and go as far as you can in it. Without a steady man in your life, you’re free to work late or weekends if necessary. You can take extended business trips without worrying about a partner. This freedom can lead to promotions, higher pay, and an in with your boss.
3. You don’t like answering to someone
Marriage is not for everyone.
It’s almost every girl’s wish to get married to the guy of her dreams in an amazing wedding. But for me, marriage is not a priority in life, and it will probably never be. Here are my reasons:
I don’t want to get stuck in a rut
Arguing over the same things over and over with my husband is not the life I envision for myself. Let’s face it; married couples argue over the same shit constantly.
“You don’t clean up after yourself!”
“You are a nag!”
“You always forget to take out the trash.”
“You never pay attention to me!”
Seriously? I can’t deal with another person’s irritating habits and petty problems for the rest of my life. Marriage is forever until death do you part. No thanks. I’d like to be able to just pick up and leave when I’m just not feeling the relationship anymore.
I like my freedom
Before doing anything, I’ll have to consult my husband. I won’t be able to go on unplanned road trips without informing my husband. For the rest of my life, I won’t be able to do whatever the heck I want without being concerned with the needs and wishes of my partner.
Marriage adds a lot of red tape and bureaucracy in the relationship
When I get married, I’ll have to change my name on my documents since I imagine I’ll be taking my husband’s last name. That’s just too much work. Besides, I like my maiden name, and I would like to keep it. And no, I won’t be comfortable hyphenating my name.
I believe marriage is outdated
Society is beginning to embrace different types of relationships. They are embracing gay relationships, single parent relationships committed but non-marriage relationships, among others. People are slowly moving away from the idea that women have to get married to have children or a stable, loving relationship. They are beginning to accept that it’s not the only path to follow.
I don’t want to deal with my husband’s family
Self-respect is the keystone to being a woman.
Women who know their worth, and value being respected are rarely taken advantage of by men, or women for that matter. She knows the importance of boundaries, and there are certain things she would never do for a man because she would lose his respect and more importantly her self-respect. With that said, these are some of the things that should be on your list of things-not-to-do for a man:
1. Don’t Compromise On Your Values
So he wants to have kids but doesn’t want to get married – you prefer to get married and have kids. Should you compromise? He wants to have sex before marriage, but you want to wait until after you’re married. Should you compromise?
The answer is; you shouldn’t because you will regret it two weeks or one year down the line. Find someone who shares the same values as you instead.
2. Don’t give it up to keep him in love
If he says that you need to have sex with him to prove that you love him, then that’s not real love. Sex is not love, and love is not sex. Those are two different things. Besides, there’s no guarantee that when you give it up, he will stick around. In fact, there’s a high chance he will leave you twisting in the wind the moment you give in to his sexual advances.
3. Don’t Let Him Waste Your Time
Let’s be real here; women have a biological clock, and the last thing you need is for a man to waste your time. So you have been dating five years. Is he ever going to put a ring on it? If you are both financially stable, have great jobs and have been dating for more than a year, there is absolutely no reason why you should let him string you along for another five or ten years.
4. Don’t Get Knocked Up To Keep Him
This is a no-brainer. You don’t need to get pregnant to make a man see you are meant to be together. If he doesn’t see a future with you without a baby in your womb, then it’s time to call it quits.
5. Don’t Ever Chase A Man
Has somebody wronged you in a way that you find hard to forgive?
Are you holding on to resentment and anger? These types of emotions have a way of controlling us. Would you like to learn to not live in a constant state of hatred or resentment? The answer lies in forgiveness.
When you think of forgiveness, you may be inclined to think that you would be doing it for the benefit of the person against whom you hold resentment. The fact is that forgiveness is the only way to achieve serenity and peace of mind. How many times in a day do you think about the wrong done to you? How often do you think about something you would say or do to get back at the person who wronged you? The reality is that you are allowing another person to control your emotional state of being.
When you forgive another person, you’re not telling them that what they did was okay. Perhaps you have suffered a real tragedy at the hands of another person. Forgiveness is about your being able to let go of strong feelings that dominate you. When you forgive another person you are taking charge of your life and making the decision not to let another person ‘rent free space in your head’.
How to Forgive
Benching is when you start dating someone you think may have potential,
but you’re not crazy about them. You’re not sure whether to keep dating them or dump them and move on to the next one. So you keep them in your mental “maybe” folder and “bench” them for later consideration. Keeping in contact just enough so that they think you’re still interested in them.
Ghosting is the act of suddenly stopping all communication with someone you’re dating but no longer wishes to be in a relationship with. This is done in hopes that the person you were dating will “get the hint” and move on without you having to take any further action.
1. With ghosting, people get the message quickly.
No one wants to be ghosted, it’s cowardly, rude and hurtful, but at least you get the message after a week or so. With benching, you could be led on for months.
2. Major ego builder for the bencher.
Let’s be real here — a lot of guys who bench do so because they like the idea of having their own “harem” of women to choose from. They’re looking to stroke their egos at the expense of others’ feeling while also keeping their options open.
3. Unlike ghosting, there’s no reason to bench.
Guys like to tell themselves they’re being honest when they bench a woman. They’re not sneaking around, they haven’t agreed to any commitment, so there shouldn’t be any expectations on the woman’s part. When a man ghosts, they typically do so because they don’t feel comfortable with breakups and want to avoid any drama that might arise from ending a relationship. In other words, because they’re cowards.
4. Both ghosting and benching say a lot about who you are.
It shows that they’re a coward. It indicates that they don’t respect the other person’s feelings. It also proves that the only person they care about is themselves.
How many of these signs do you identify with?
Too often, women don’t recognize the signs of an unhealthy relationship. Sometimes it’s because of their naiveté or worse, being in denial. Signs of a bad relationship can be subtle, something you can brush off as a few bad days, or just going through a rough patch. Fortunately, most signs are as clear as a sunny day; you just have to be willing to see them.
Whatever your reason, no one should ever settle for anything less than a loving and respectful relationship. If any of these toxic red flags apply to you, it’s time to move on – time will not make any of these signs acceptable.
You start doubting your self-worth
No one should ever make you feel like you’re unworthy, especially someone who says they love you. A caring partner should remind you of how much you mean to them and how amazing you are, even if you don’t require the reminders.
You’ve felt unsafe at ANY point
Don’t make excuses like “It was in the heat of the moment,” or tell yourself “It won’t happen again.” You should never, ever feel or be threatened. Physically or verbally.
You have to ask permission
You are not a child. Taking your partner’s thoughts into consideration is fine, but you should be able to do what you think is best without fear of reprisal from your significant other (SO).
You can’t fully be yourself
Trying to be something you’re not, or suppressing certain parts of you is not sustainable. If your SO can’t love all of you, then they sure as hell don’t deserve any of you.
You do whatever it takes to avoid a fight
You want to avoid arguments, so you acquiesce, lie, sneak around, or refuse to address things. You might think you’re helping your relationship, but you’re not. The fear of confrontations or breaking up isn’t reason enough to be passive.
You fight often
What’s the best way to get your ideal brows?
Plucking (tweezing), threading and waxing are the methods used most to get the manicured look you’re going for. While you might want to go with what looks trendy and mainstream, there is a need to have a close look at what each one of these styles give you.
Threading allows for perfect definition
For those who choose to go with this method, it is highly detailed. It allows you to carve out a shape for the brow according to your own preferences, creating a sharp look that stays on for quite a bit and remains very noticeable.
Here, you are handling hairs at a very individual level. You do not deal with a clump of hairs, but working with every single piece until the end, which gives you the flexibility to carve out a sharp finish at the end.
It is fast
With threading, there is not much in the way of intricacies. All that the technician needs to do is move from a single piece of hair to the next. The entire process is much faster than tweezing.
Threading is a very fast process that focuses more on getting things done than actually providing quality. You will therefore find that the hair removal process is rather careless, providing substandard results.
You can choose to go for tweezing services from professionals, but it is not absolutely necessary, because it is a simple enough process to carry out in front of your mirror.
He seemed to have his shit together… for a minute.
It’s during the dating period of a relationship when you should be able to spot red flags that signal a problem. You want to recognize these negative qualities before your relationship becomes more serious. The following are four signs that the man you’re dating may be unstable.
1. He declares his love on the first date
Even if the man you’re dating thinks he’s fallen in love with you very early on, expressing this love is a bad idea. Confessing love so early on may mean that he’s a clingy boyfriend or expect the relationship to advance quickly. He may be needy of love, affection, and attention that you aren’t quite ready to give yet. People who quickly declare love are thought to do so with everyone they meet because they are desperate to be in a relationship.
2. He threatens self-harm
If the man you’re dating threatens to harm or kill himself, you are dating an unstable man. He may threaten to hurt himself if you decide to end your relationship, but remember that this is not an act of love. Even if he never does any harm to himself and only uses it as a threat to get his way or gain sympathy, this behavior is unacceptable and is a clear sign of instability.
3. He knows info about you that you didn’t tell him
Is he still pining over his ex?
You have a nagging suspicion that your boyfriend is not over his ex. That he’s not ready to move on and commit to the relationship. Before you get too emotionally attached to this man you need to recognize the signs that he STILL might not be over his ex.
He still gets emotional whenever he talks about his ex
Does your boyfriend get that far-away look in his eyes and the tiniest of smiles when he mentions his ex? Or does he blowup and call her a bitch? Either scenario might signal that he is not totally over her. You may be setting yourself up for heartache if you get involved with a man who still harbors feelings for his last love. No one wants to be the rebound girl, because it rarely works out in your favor.
He can’t stop comparing you to her
Who the hell wants to constantly be compared to their boyfriend’s ex? Most of the time it’s done in a complimentary way. He might say that you have a sweet smile just like his last girlfriend, or his ex was gentle and kind just like you.
Of course there is the other side of the spectrum where he may suggest that his ex is smarter or more athletic (which is code for skinnier) than you. No matter how the comparisons are done, he probably still has feelings for his ex.
He still talks with her… a lot