There are certain things that you or your partner should NOT ask of each other. Having good communication between you and your partner can alleviate some of these issues. Once you let someone take control of your life, it’s hard to regain control.
If your partner is abusive, he should never ask you to be loyal, or expect your love.
If he ever says “Why can’t you be like her” that should be a deal breaker. Obviously he doesn’t like you for who you really are.
If he is not adult enough to handle or resolve family conflicts, it’s not your responsibility to do it for him.
If your partner is asking you to choose between him and a family member that’s a big problem. You can accept that animosity exists between a family member and your partner, and decide on your own to take sides, but your partner should never ask you to choose one relationship over the other.
You will only be enabling them if you lie to cover up for their addictions. You will become part of the problem, and you are not helping the situation.
If your partner has a problem with one of your friends, it’s okay for him to voice his concerns, but that’s it. He should never ask you to stop being friends with one of your friends, especially if the friendship precedes the relationship.
Talk dirty to me…
It’s the title of rock and pop songs…
It’s something you’ve probably been asked to do…
And maybe you fumbled around with trying to come up with a response…
Maybe you just changed the subject and hoped he didn’t ask again!
No matter how you personally feel about talking dirty, you totally get that guys love dirty talk. But have you ever wondered “why is dirty talk so arousing to him?”
Look no further as I’m here to give you the low-down on the dirty. Knowing why he loves it when you talk dirty gives you an unfair advantage. It’s sort of like having advanced sexy ninja skills to make him putty in your presence.
Come with me as we uncover the specifics to why talking dirty drives men wild!
If you have a ladylike public persona but behind closed doors you let explicit phrases tumble from your mouth, the contradiction gives him a big charge of excitement. He knows that he is the only one who gets to see this naughty side of you. Like he’s the one who inspires you to be uninhibited and that’s intoxicating to his ego.
And even if you aren’t the pinnacle of propriety, seeing you transform into a dirty little vixen for his eyes only gives him a titillating thrill. This heightens all of his senses and makes everything that much more arousing for him.
When you let loose with a string of moans and screams mixed with a variety of sexy play-by-plays and dirty directives, you show him just how much you LOVE what he’s doing to you. Your unbridled expressions of bliss tell him in no uncertain terms that he’s rocking your socks.
You see, men are hard-wired in their brains to please us sexually. This goes all the way back to cave man days. However, in modern life, there are so many mixed signals both genders give that can get in the way of him knowing he’s “done his job” of satisfying you. Dirty talk cuts right through all the gray and speaks to him clearly.
Because You Allow It
First and foremost, you allow it. If you accept less, nine times out of ten that is what you will get. Many side chicks accept the game their man runs on them, all the while claiming that they want a good man. Some choose to stay in the relationship even if they were duped about their status from the beginning. They believe that eventually they will be able to push the main chick out, and become his one and only. Even if by some chance you become his main chick, what have you really accomplished?
Side Chick Benefits
Let’s face it, some guys offer an excellent benefits package to their side chick. Lavish gifts, bills paid, and all the two-minute sex sessions you can dream of. For many women, this is worth the trade-off of not being the main woman. You’re not truly into him either so for you, it’s all about the material things you can get from him, the fun. You rationalize that nobody is getting hurt… well, at least not you.
You Fear a Real Relationship
The truth is, our world is filled with damaged and hurt individuals. The disappointments in love and relationships have caused many people to build walls around them. Some women figure being the side chick is safer for their hearts and emotions, while still providing themselves companionship on some level. Of course, this is a risky business because eventually you can catch feelings and develop an unhealthy emotional attachment.
You Only Offer Good Looks or Sex
‘To be or not to be?’
Is the big question when it comes to being friends with your ex. It’s a nice idea to stay friends with a former partner, but is it really for the best? Here are eight solid reasons why trying to maintain a friendship with an ex-lover could be problematic.
The best thing to do when a relationship falls apart is to move on and try to distance your self from the situation. By attempting to keep an ex in your life, even as a friend, you may be prolonging the healing process and causing both parties more suffering.
When a relationship ends it’s very easy to dwell on all the things that went wrong in it. If you try to stay friends with your ex, you may be providing yourself with a constant reminder of all the bad things that happened when you were together.
Despite your best efforts to just be friends with an ex, it takes a long time for feelings and passion to go away. The potential for relapsing and getting back together will always be there, and why start the whole cycle of heartbreak and pain all over again?
Let’s face it, you’ve probably seen your ex naked countless numbers of times. Can you really maintain a friendship with someone you were intimate with at one point in time and not think of them in that way?
You know your reasons for wanting to stay friends with an ex, but do you know theirs? Perhaps your ex is still in love with you and wants you back, or maybe they just want to control you by not allowing you to meet anyone new.
An Austin, Texas man is demanding a refund from his date after she texted while they were at the movies.
Brandon Vezmar filed a petition at a small claims court seeking $17.31 in damages.
He claims he spent that much money to take his unidentified date to a 3-D showing of “Guardians of the Galaxy, Vol. 2” on May 6, he told the Austin American-Statesman paper.
“After the movie started, defendant activated her phone at least 10-20 times in 15 minutes to read and send text messages, in direct violation of the theater’s policy, ” his petition states.
Vezmar accuses his date of “adversely affecting the viewing experience” of moviegoers.
“While damages sought are modest, the principle is important as defendant’s behavior is a threat to civilized society,” his petition says.
Vezmar told the newspaper that he met the woman online, and that it was their first date.
“It was kind of a first date from hell,” he said, adding that texting at the movies is, “like, one of my biggest pet peeves.”
“I said, ‘Listen, your texting is driving me a little nuts’ and she said ‘I can’t not text my friend,’” he told local TV station KVUE. “I said ‘maybe you can take it outside to the lobby, I’ve seen people get kicked out movies for this.'”
No, it’s not what you think!
Do you want LOVE from a man? Then rub his reptile.
Do you want him to WORSHIP you like a goddess? Then rub his reptile.
Do you want him to finally get over his weird EMOTIONAL HANGUPS & commit to you?
Then once again, rub his reptile.
I don’t know if you know this or not but every human being has something called the reptilian brain.
The sole job of this portion of your brain is to ensure your survival and to make sure that you achieve maximum possible pleasure out of everything you do.
So the core job of this brain is survival and pleasure.
This brain basically follows 2 rules…
Rule 1- Unlike your logical brain, this brain doesn’t have the power to reason and only understands the simple language of pain or pleasure.
Therefore, it tends to motivate you to do more of the things which please you and less of the things which give you pain.
Rule 2 – Since this brain doesn’t have any power to reason, any message sent directly to this part of a man’s brain is followed with an extreme sense of urgency because it doesn’t have the power to reason, and it has no power to reject a command.
For example, if I say “DON’T” think of a big, fat, blue COW…
What’s the first thing which popped into your head? An image of a blue cow RIGHT?
That’s because your reptilian brain can’t reject a command even when it is told “Not to do something”.
Therefore, when you plant messages or suggestions in a man’s reptilian brain, he becomes utterly immune to everything else and follows through with your commands as if it is something really urgent.
So now can you understand why I kept saying rub his reptile?
To illustrate this further, let me ask you a quick question…
Have you ever been around a man, who was starting to grow bored and distant to the point where you tried desperately hard & did all the right things…
…but nothing worked and he kept slipping further and further away from you?
The majority of women have done this in their relationship at some point.
As I’ve matured, I’ve become a woman that knows what she wants, and I’m not afraid to ask for it. But I haven’t always been this assertive. In the past, I honestly had no idea exactly what I wanted and felt I couldn’t risk bruising my partner’s ego by asking for certain things.
For some reason, I saw my satisfaction as secondary to my partner’s. I thought I was supposed to pretend to enjoy myself in an effort not to make sex “too complicated” or unenjoyable. To not come across as difficult.
So I lied. I moaned, groaned and smiled, and sometimes I was barely able to keep myself from yawning when I was less than impressed by my partner. I claimed to like the things being done to my body that was, well, plain awful.
We have allowed some men to maintain a sense of pride and confidence in their lovemaking skills when they should have received a failing grade. Not only as women did we fail our partners by giving them a passing grade, but we also doomed the next woman to mediocre sex.
So to set the record straight, I have compiled a list of lies that I, and some of the women I know have told in the past.
Lie: “Yes, of course I came.”
Truth: I’ve never completed with you because you don’t last long enough.
If your man is exhibiting any of these signs, you might need to rethink your relationship because he doesn’t have your best interest at heart.
1. He’s vague about his life
Asking and answering questions is all a part of a new relationship. It takes time to lean a person’s character, but when a man is vague and mysterious, about his age, where he lives, his relationship status, and essentially who he is, you should be alarmed. Run away from a man who is hesitant to divulge who he is beneath the surface.
2. He doesn’t take you out
If a man is uncomfortable being out in public with you, has regulated your interactions to “house dates”, or will not take you to places where there are crowds, you have to ask yourself why? He could have Agoraphobia, but most likely he is hiding something. Pay attention.
3. You can’t reach him for days on end
Simply put when a man is genuinely interested in you he is consistent. He doesn’t disappear and become out of reach for days on end. Most men pursue what they want; they make a priority of people and things that interest them. So unless your man is a traveling salesman (even then you should be able to reach him by phone) be leery of someone you can’t get contact on a regular basis.
4. He’s selfish
If a long-term relationship is your goal, you might want to steer clear of these guys. Most likely you just end up wasting your time, and getting your heart broken. Relationship experts have concluded that these 10 types of men should be avoided if a serious relationship or marriage is your goal.
1. Still hung-up on his ex
We have all been out with this guy. He says he’s over his ex, yet at every turn, he talks about her and compares you to her. Please, he is not over her and until he is over her, he is not marrying you.
2. Not ready for a serious relationship
This is the guy who dates a lot and never seems to stay in a relationship for very long. Every time his partner starts to get serious about the relationship and want to take it to the next level, he uses the excuse that he’s not ready. The question about this guy is this: Is he really not ready, or is that just a convenient excuse to dump you and avoid the commitment?
3. Always looking for a bigger, better deal
You know this guy. He is the one who likes you a lot but is always wondering if there is a better version of you out there, somewhere in the universe. Honestly, do you need to be with the guy who is never going to think that you are good enough to marry?
4. Hangs out with the young crowd
Look at the entire package, his actions are telling you what you need to know.
If you’re truly into a guy, you might look at his positive actions and conclude that he’s into you too. Because you like him, you might push aside the actions that are telling you, loudly and clearly, that you’re just a temporary stop. Here are four signs that the man you hope to have a relationship with probably doesn’t share your feelings.
1. He never texts during the day
If a man doesn’t text you until after 11 p.m., he’s probably not interested in you in a romantic way. He might be bored or just sees you as a friend, but just because he’s shows interest in how your day went, doesn’t mean he has deeper feelings for you. Chances are, he’s just putting in his time so that he can have sex with you. If he’s used to texting you only late at night, it’s because he knows he can. If you want to know if he sincerely cares about you, stop replying to those late-night texts. Reply in the morning and see what happens. If he begins texting during the day when things are not sexual, he might be interested in you. If he still doesn’t text until late at night, you know what he wants.
2. He disappears for days at a time
A man who is into you won’t disappear for days on end. If he does, he will come back with a good excuse for doing so. When a man isn’t into you, he can easily spend days away from you and come back acting as though nothing happened. Actions speak louder than words. Any man with a smartphone or computer will not have an excuse to disappear on a regular basis. If you allow him to sweet-talk you each time he comes back, he will continue to disappear and you’ll keep believing he’s cares. When he disappears constantly, he is telling you that your potential relationship isn’t a priority to him.
3. You haven’t met anyone in his life
We spend about a third of our life sleeping and so many health problems can be alleviated by getting a good night’s sleep. Sleeping in the proper posture is extremely important to get the best sleep possible. A number of specialists have listed several recommendations on how to sleep properly, which will fix many sleep issues. Here are some tips that will help you to improve your sleep quality.
Trouble Falling Asleep
If you have trouble falling asleep, you should avoid using any phones and computers before bedtime because the light of the screens can affect your sleep-wake cycle. Also, you shouldn’t consume any caffeinated foods and drinks, such as chocolate, coffee, black tea, soda, and energy drinks, at least six hours before going to bed.
Regular exercising is also beneficial for improving your sleep. You should exercise in the morning and afternoon on a daily basis. This will help you to improve your blood circulation, tone your body, and fall asleep much easier.
Inability to Wake Up
Even though many people are suffering from this problem, it can be quite easy to fix. If you can’t wake up in the morning, you should set your alarm at the same time every day, including on the weekends.
In case you want to wake up early, you should make sure that you are going to sleep early in the evening.
The best posture for relieving neck pain is sleeping on your back with a pillow under your head and under both of your arms. Make sure that your pillows are either orthopedic or roll pillows.
If you sleep on your side, you should avoid using a high pillow. The height of the pillow should be equal to the width of one shoulder. This will help you to keep your neck in a correct position.
If you experience back pain, you should sleep on your back. Place a pillow under your knees in order to restore the natural spinal curves and to lower the tension in your tendons.
A woman who has her shit together and who doesn’t cater to drama, is the best girlfriend you could have. She may be intimidating at first, because she doesn’t put up with game players or someone who’s going to waste her time. But she is the best girlfriend you’ll ever have. Here are just a few reasons why:
What you see is what you get. You never have to wonder if she’s putting on a front just to reel you in, because she doesn’t really care what you think. She’ll be her authentic self because she lives by the mantra, “Take me as I am, or watch me as I go.” She knows her worth, and won’t diminish her morals or values just to reel you in.
A woman who is comfortable with herself, has her own life and she is happy to live it. Even when you’re not around. She doesn’t expect you to text every five minutes and won’t bombard you with texts either. In fact, she may prefer that you don’t constantly text her while you’re away because you’ll be interrupting whatever she’s working on. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t text her at all. She is still a woman and likes to know she is missed. Just don’t take her ability to be away from you as a sign she’s not into you.
She knows how to balance work and play time. When she’s not working her ass off to better herself, she’s enjoying life in the best ways she can. Whatever her endeavors are, she always makes them memorable.