You’d think that an alpha female would want an alpha male, right?
They’d be a perfect match for each other since they are both hardworking, confident, intelligent, go-getters and strong-willed. But, this may not be necessarily true. Both alpha males and females are competitive, and there’s a high chance this might interfere with what’s best for their relationship.
Since it would take a lot for two alphas to make a relationship work, it would only make sense if the alpha female got into a relationship with a submissive man, also known as an omega. The omega would let the woman take the lead in the relationship. He would agree with the alpha woman’s decisions all the time. Sounds like the perfect combination, right? Wrong! Yes, yes, we know what you’re thinking…Opposites attract, but in this case, it’s just a recipe for disaster.
Alpha females don’t need a submissive man or an alpha male. What they need is a combination of qualities in a man. Here are some of the qualities you should be looking for in a man if you are an alpha female
1. He should give you room to grow
As an alpha female, you prefer to tackle your problems head-on. You don’t have time for whining and complaining about your problems. You also know that to grow and achieve your goals you need your space. Your man should give you enough room to chase after your dreams.
2. He knows when to have your back
Alpha women need help every once in a while. A man dating an alpha woman should know when his woman needs him to step in and help her. And even when he offers a helping hand it should be to give her inspiration to find a solution not to solve the problem for her. That’s the key to balancing a relationship.
3. He shouldn’t get intimidated
According to Psychologists…
Ever been told “You two bicker like an old married couple”? It turns out, that’s a good thing. According to a new series of studies by psychologists, couples who argue may have a healthier relationship than those who don’t.
Multiple studies done in the U.S. have shown that couples who argue are more likely to stay together. Psychologists believe this to be true for a number of reasons.
1. Prevents problems from mushrooming
Arguing allows couples to focus on issues that need to be solved before they become too large of a problem. When you tackle an issue when its small you have a greater chance of finding solutions that are agreeable to all.
2. Keeps communication open
44 percent of married couples believe that arguing more than once a week helps keep communication lines open. The surprising survey suggests that couples see the importance of arguing to express their needs and concerns clearly to their partner.
3. Shows commitment to the relationship
Arguing with your significant other shows you are committed to the relationship. Psychologists suggest that by fighting instead of just looking for a way out, you are showing that you want your relationship to work.
4. Shows interest in relationship
If your partner doesn’t argue with you, are they still interested in being a couple? Or have they “checked out” and are no longer concerned about the outcome of the relationship. By trying to argue things through, they’re showing that they are still interested.
5. Shows you’re comfortable expressing your opinions
Muscular guys are good to look at and daydream about…
But they can be high maintenance, so it’s no wonder why some women like a man who is tall and a little husky. Here are 15 reasons why husky men are a desirable commodity.
1. He’s confident and comfortable with himself
There’s nothing more attractive than a man (or woman) who is accepting of themselves. He doesn’t feel the need to change for anyone.
2. He’s not superficial
Looks are not the most important thing for him. So, the pressure is off for you always to try to look your best around him. Of course, this doesn’t mean you can let yourself go, but you don’t have to constantly stress over your outward appearance.
3. He won’t shame you
Go ahead and eat that third slice of pizza (if he hasn’t eaten it already). He won’t shame you if you gain a pound or two.
4. He’s your life-sized teddy bear
Cuddling into all his soft spots will feel like you’re snuggling on a man cloud.
5. He lasts longer in bed
Research done at a university in Turkey found that men with bigger bellies lasted 7.3 minutes longer on average than other men. That alone is enough to get yourself a teddy bear.
6. He’s not obsessed with healthy eating
Are you the type of mom who tells it like it is…
And may use a little profanity to get your point across?
Moms who use profanity don’t care what anyone else thinks about their parenting skills. What they do care about is their child’s safety, health, and happiness, and if they use a little colorful language on occasion – so be it.
They don’t take BS from anyone
You’re not just going to walk all over a mom who doesn’t mind using a little eyebrow-raising language. Moms who use swear words are rarely taken advantage of because no one wants to be on the receiving end of one of their lectures. Acquaintances, teachers, friends and family members know the number one reason for such a talk is a perceived wrong done to their child.
Profanity using moms are passionate
They may drop a good, mouthy expletive here and there to let people know they really, really mean what they’re saying. There will be no doubt in your mind where she stands on an issue.
They’re more creative
Psychologist Richard Stephens of Keele University who led a study published in the journal “NeuroReport,” found that people who curse are often more creative. It makes sense: the F-word is probably one of the only words that can be used as a noun, verb, adverb, adjective, and interjection.
They don’t care about being ladylike
Do you use your middle finger so often that’s it’s become an automatic reflex?
Do your coworkers have your blood pressure soaring on a daily basis? Anger is a normal emotion – but shouldn’t be bottled up. So, it’s important to know how to deal with it healthily.
Keeping your temper in check can be challenging. Use simple anger management tips — from taking a timeout to using “I” statements — to stay in control. So before you snap, it’s time to get your anger under control. Start by considering these ten anger management tips.
1. Think before you speak
Counting to ten is not just a clique. We’ve all said things in the heat of the moment that we’ve regretted. To prevent this from happening, take a little time to collect your thoughts before speaking. If you see others involved in the situation pausing before responding to you, be patient, they are probably trying to manage their anger also.
2. Once you’re calm, get it off your chest
Express your frustration once you become clear headed. Be assertive but non-confrontational. State your concerns and needs, without hurting others or trying to control or blame them.
3. Get some exercise
Physical activity can help reduce the stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.
4. Take a timeout
Timeouts aren’t just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what’s ahead without getting irritated or angry.
5. Identify possible solutions
Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your boyfriend constantly cancel dates at the last minute? Stop planning events that include him. Do your coworker always pick you up late for the carpool? Find another way to work. Remind yourself that anger won’t fix anything and might only make it worse.
Who doesn’t want to hear the words “I love you?”
But do the spoken words mean the same to both partners? Relationship experts explain that the phrase is often perfunctory and other words can better convey how you feel about someone.
So here are five statements you can make to let your partner know you are appreciative of them and that you are paying attention.
1. “Thank you.”
Two words that aren’t used enough. Gratitude is something that we all need and seek from people. If we do something nice for our partner, we naturally want to be thanked. By thanking them, we demonstrate that we recognize our partner’s contributions and value what they bring to the table. It’s also positive reinforcement–if they know they’ve done well, they’re more likely to repeat the good behavior in the future. If they don’t know you care, they may not.
2. “I appreciate everything you do.”
Yes, this is expanding on “thank you,” but consider it a polite acknowledgment to add to your repertoire of sincere compliments.
It’s another way to tell your partner that you value them and the contributions they make to our lives. Affirmations are fuel for a happy relationship. They keep us going when it doesn’t feel like the rest of the world appreciates us. They strengthen the bonds of the relationship and lead to an even greater desire for intimacy and closeness.
3. “I’m here for you.”
Feeling like you’re alone during a crisis is one of the worst things you can feel. Everyone needs reassurance, especially during the tough times that every relationship eventually faces.
When a partner screws up, this reassurance can go a long way to help them correct their mistakes in the future. It also helps them know that your feelings haven’t changed, and they still have your love and support.
4. “I love you the way you are.”
Do your significant other have you on the verge of snapping?
Do your coworkers have you saving money for the eventual bail hearing? Are you screaming into your pillow at night trying to expel the rage that’s built up during the day? If you have answered yes to any of these questions you need some serious anger management classes.
Or, is the reason you’re wielding a bat like Negan from The Walking Dead because of your astrological sign. Take a deep breath and let’s take a look at the zodiac signs and see which ones are the most likely to snap.
I doubt you’ll be going on a killing spree anytime soon. Your compassion for people and willingness to listen hinders you from acting impulsively. You have an inner ability to calm yourself which helps you tolerate even the most insensitive person. The only thing that might have you resulting to violence is if someone threatens your family, at that point all bets are off.
You’re too creative to be a real killer. Oh, you’ll think of a hundred ways to do away with someone, but by the time you’ve imagined their demise in your head, the anger you felt for them will be gone. The importance you place on relationships with others will get you through even the toughest times.
You’re not the one to snap. Your ability to find a calming solution to your problems will help you get through most situations – no matter how frustrating. You can find ways to balance almost any issue without going off the deep end.
Probably not – unless there is some financial gain to be had. Your stubbornness and desire for control can be tricky, but your dependability and kindness should overcome any negative emotions you might have for someone.
You may plot, might watch a few episodes of CSI or Forensic Files for some pointers, but in the end, you know you have others depending on you. Doing a few years in Sing Sing is not in your cards, you’ve set your ambitions a little higher than jail.
Oh baby, that’s it…
It’s a wide known fact that women don’t always have an orgasm every time they have sex. There are a number of reasons as to why they don’t orgasm every time but we won’t delve into that now. We don’t always let our men know that we didn’t orgasm. We’d rather let them sleep at night knowing they are sex gods and they always make us shudder with orgasms (yes, I know that part of the problem). Here are a few things guys do in bed that make us fake it.
Some guys only need you to brush your lips against theirs to get a hard on. If only it were that easy for women to get turned on. What guys need to understand is that we are not light bulbs such that when you need to turn us on, all you need to do is flick a switch.
That’s not how it works. Women need foreplay…plenty of foreplay. It shouldn’t last less than fifteen minutes. And it has to be good, not fumbling around. But some men are too lazy for foreplay so it’s just better to fake it and get it over and done with.
Arrogance is what makes some men think they are sex gods. They think that if they touch a woman’s breasts a little, maybe pinch the nipples a little harder then she’ll be turned on. Well, that technique might work for some women but it doesn’t work for all. Women are different and want different things in bed.
You know many woman don’t like anal so why bring it up when we are in the middle of having sex? “Oh, baby, can I stick it in the other hole?”
If you have a weird and disgusting sex request like a hot carl (you might want to Google that if you don’t know what it is) then ask for it after sex so we can tell you a big fat NO.
A guy has to study his woman in order to know if she likes certain things in bed or not. This way, any requests he makes won’t turn her off.
Boobs or butt?
It’s a common debate man have tackled for years, probably centuries. A woman with a full bosom or “junk in the trunk.” Which is more desirable? Truthfully, most men will tell you they love both, but there’s inarguably something particularly alluring to the male population about a woman’s behind. So what gives? Why are backsides just so darn appealing to the male species? You may be surprised to find the answer lies in science.
Why Men Love Butts
A prominent derrière – or more aptly, the curved spine it’s connected to – held an important significance to our nomadic ancestors.
Eric Russell, a psychologist at the University of Texas at Arlington, says “Over the course of human history, women faced the adaptive problem of a forwarded-shifted center of mass during pregnancy.” Russell wrote, “”Women with a greater degree of lumbar curvature … were able to redistribute this center of mass to reduce the strain of pregnancy. Thus, we hypothesized that men should have a psychological adaptation to prefer these women as mating partners.”
A study conducted by a team of psychologists at Bilkent University in Turkey asked 300 men to rate female silhouettes with lumbar curvatures between 21 and 61 degrees. A moderate curvature of 45.5 degrees was the most favored, and further research explained that women with that level of curvature would have conferred with the evolutionary advantages mentioned earlier without preventing a higher risk for health problems, namely back troubles.
The most important revelation of the study was that the structure of the spine itself, not just the fat and muscle of the buttocks, was integral to a man’s level of attraction toward a woman’s rear.
Most people prefer working in an environmentally control office versus working on a factory line or outside working in the rain or heat. Unfortunately the comforts of sitting at a desk for hours also has disadvantages that could damage your health.
Numerous studies have shown that prolonged sitting can increase your chance of getting diabetes, certain cancers, cardiovascular diseases and obesity.
Not to worry, below are a series of exercises you can do at your desk, or on your break – no equipment needed! Just the chair you’ve been sitting in.
These simple chair exercises can easily be incorporated into your fitness routine. Do them all daily or choose a couple to do each day and in short order, you’ll see a difference in your waistline!
DOUBLE KNEE LIFT WITH SIDE BENDS
How It Helps:
This exercise shapes your waist by using your oblique muscles to burn fat from the sides of your belly.
How You Do It:
How It Helps:
You will burn fat on the sides of your belly and your hips.
How You Do It:
How It Helps:
This helps to strengthen your ab muscles.
How You Do It:
It’s not you, it’s me…
Are all your friends getting engaged, married or entering into some kind of a committed relationship while the only huge decision you’ve made is whether you should spend Thanksgiving watching reruns of Sex and the City or the Walking Dead?
You are not single because you are a boring, annoying, ugly, self-entitled bitch. Nah. You are a fun loving, hardworking and sociable person. So why are you single yet men are lining up waiting to marry you and have babies with you? It’s because you are a commitment phobe and these 8 signs will prove that you are:
The thought of having to give up control of your destiny and your life makes you shudder. You are used to living a certain lifestyle that it becomes difficult for anyone to live up to your expectations. People in relationships sometimes make sacrifices in order to make their partners happy but you can’t see yourself doing that.
There’s something about a guy who’s taken that just makes you want to go after him even more. Available guys just turn you off but when you find out they are married, your interest in them peaks. And it’s not just guys who are unavailable that you gravitate towards. You go for guys you know you can’t have a real relationship with.
For instance, you will date a guy who doesn’t believe in sticking to one girl. The moment he starts acting as if he is interested in making you his main girl, you break up with him citing that he’s a player and you can’t enter into a long term relationship with a guy like that.
Every girl has standards, some high, some low. But your standards are way up there and you refuse to lower the bar just a little. You have a long list of requirements that every guy must meet and you completely refuse to commit to him if he doesn’t check all the boxes.
What the heck is a love trap anyway?
Well, if you fall for the same type of guys repeatedly, knowingly or unknowingly, you are in a love trap. If you follow the same patterns when dating guys, you are in a love trap. So now, do you get what a love trap is? Good. We’ll now explain to you the different kinds of love traps.
You’ve known this guy since you were five years old. You grew up on the same street, went to the same school together and you’ve never dated anyone else but him. He has played you, treated you like dirt, you’ve broken up a gazillion times but somehow you find yourself back together with him.
Why this is a love trap? Because you insist on sticking to some guy who is obviously taking you for granted. Go out there and find out what the world has to offer.
Your first date with this guy was so great that you started imagining spending the rest of your life with him.
This is a love trap because first dates are never an actual representation of what the person is really like. He could be a criminal or a player. The first date is like a job interview….you only get one chance to blow your interviewer away. In this case, you are the interviewer and your date is the interviewee.
You start dating this guy only to realize that he is in a serious committed relationship or he is married but instead of breaking up with him, you start justifying why the two of you were meant to be.
Why is this a love trap? Because you keep forgetting that he isn’t your man. He is taken and you are holding on to forbidden fruits. And by the way, karma is a bitch…if you break up a happy relationship be prepared for it to come back and bite you in the ass.
How many times have you heard women say that they are looking for a financially stable man? There’s nothing wrong with wanting a man who can provide for his family but is that the only thing you need in a relationship?