We’ve all been looked at like “poor girl”
when someone finds out that you’re single. The look that says what’s wrong with you? Why don’t you have a man? A lot of people just don’t think it’s possible or even normal to be single and happy.
To avoid that dismaying look, some women will languish in less than satisfying relationships so that they don’t have to say they are single. The good news is that more and more women just don’t give a damn about what you think of their romantic life. And refuse to stay in relationships that are stressful, have no possibility of going to the next level, or are just plain boring, to satisfy someone else.
Here are eight reasons some women remain single:
1. You’re not ready for a commitment
You just aren’t ready to commit. You like the excitement of dating without the pressure of being in a committed relationship. You are upfront with guys so there won’t be any confusion or drama when they don’t hear from you for weeks or months on end. You are happy playing the field and not ready to settle down.
2. You’re focused on your career
While others have a job, you have a career, and it’s important to you to focus on that and go as far as you can in it. Without a steady man in your life, you’re free to work late or weekends if necessary. You can take extended business trips without worrying about a partner. This freedom can lead to promotions, higher pay, and an in with your boss.
3. You don’t like answering to someone
You’d think that an alpha female would want an alpha male, right?
They’d be a perfect match for each other since they are both hardworking, confident, intelligent, go-getters and strong-willed. But, this may not be necessarily true. Both alpha males and females are competitive, and there’s a high chance this might interfere with what’s best for their relationship.
Since it would take a lot for two alphas to make a relationship work, it would only make sense if the alpha female got into a relationship with a submissive man, also known as an omega. The omega would let the woman take the lead in the relationship. He would agree with the alpha woman’s decisions all the time. Sounds like the perfect combination, right? Wrong! Yes, yes, we know what you’re thinking…Opposites attract, but in this case, it’s just a recipe for disaster.
Alpha females don’t need a submissive man or an alpha male. What they need is a combination of qualities in a man. Here are some of the qualities you should be looking for in a man if you are an alpha female
1. He should give you room to grow
As an alpha female, you prefer to tackle your problems head-on. You don’t have time for whining and complaining about your problems. You also know that to grow and achieve your goals you need your space. Your man should give you enough room to chase after your dreams.
2. He knows when to have your back
Alpha women need help every once in a while. A man dating an alpha woman should know when his woman needs him to step in and help her. And even when he offers a helping hand it should be to give her inspiration to find a solution not to solve the problem for her. That’s the key to balancing a relationship.
3. He shouldn’t get intimidated
Marriage is not for everyone.
It’s almost every girl’s wish to get married to the guy of her dreams in an amazing wedding. But for me, marriage is not a priority in life, and it will probably never be. Here are my reasons:
I don’t want to get stuck in a rut
Arguing over the same things over and over with my husband is not the life I envision for myself. Let’s face it; married couples argue over the same shit constantly.
“You don’t clean up after yourself!”
“You are a nag!”
“You always forget to take out the trash.”
“You never pay attention to me!”
Seriously? I can’t deal with another person’s irritating habits and petty problems for the rest of my life. Marriage is forever until death do you part. No thanks. I’d like to be able to just pick up and leave when I’m just not feeling the relationship anymore.
I like my freedom
Before doing anything, I’ll have to consult my husband. I won’t be able to go on unplanned road trips without informing my husband. For the rest of my life, I won’t be able to do whatever the heck I want without being concerned with the needs and wishes of my partner.
Marriage adds a lot of red tape and bureaucracy in the relationship
When I get married, I’ll have to change my name on my documents since I imagine I’ll be taking my husband’s last name. That’s just too much work. Besides, I like my maiden name, and I would like to keep it. And no, I won’t be comfortable hyphenating my name.
I believe marriage is outdated
Society is beginning to embrace different types of relationships. They are embracing gay relationships, single parent relationships committed but non-marriage relationships, among others. People are slowly moving away from the idea that women have to get married to have children or a stable, loving relationship. They are beginning to accept that it’s not the only path to follow.
I don’t want to deal with my husband’s family
According to Psychologists…
Ever been told “You two bicker like an old married couple”? It turns out, that’s a good thing. According to a new series of studies by psychologists, couples who argue may have a healthier relationship than those who don’t.
Multiple studies done in the U.S. have shown that couples who argue are more likely to stay together. Psychologists believe this to be true for a number of reasons.
1. Prevents problems from mushrooming
Arguing allows couples to focus on issues that need to be solved before they become too large of a problem. When you tackle an issue when its small you have a greater chance of finding solutions that are agreeable to all.
2. Keeps communication open
44 percent of married couples believe that arguing more than once a week helps keep communication lines open. The surprising survey suggests that couples see the importance of arguing to express their needs and concerns clearly to their partner.
3. Shows commitment to the relationship
Arguing with your significant other shows you are committed to the relationship. Psychologists suggest that by fighting instead of just looking for a way out, you are showing that you want your relationship to work.
4. Shows interest in relationship
If your partner doesn’t argue with you, are they still interested in being a couple? Or have they “checked out” and are no longer concerned about the outcome of the relationship. By trying to argue things through, they’re showing that they are still interested.
5. Shows you’re comfortable expressing your opinions
Muscular guys are good to look at and daydream about…
But they can be high maintenance, so it’s no wonder why some women like a man who is tall and a little husky. Here are 15 reasons why husky men are a desirable commodity.
1. He’s confident and comfortable with himself
There’s nothing more attractive than a man (or woman) who is accepting of themselves. He doesn’t feel the need to change for anyone.
2. He’s not superficial
Looks are not the most important thing for him. So, the pressure is off for you always to try to look your best around him. Of course, this doesn’t mean you can let yourself go, but you don’t have to constantly stress over your outward appearance.
3. He won’t shame you
Go ahead and eat that third slice of pizza (if he hasn’t eaten it already). He won’t shame you if you gain a pound or two.
4. He’s your life-sized teddy bear
Cuddling into all his soft spots will feel like you’re snuggling on a man cloud.
5. He lasts longer in bed
Research done at a university in Turkey found that men with bigger bellies lasted 7.3 minutes longer on average than other men. That alone is enough to get yourself a teddy bear.
6. He’s not obsessed with healthy eating
Are you the type of mom who tells it like it is…
And may use a little profanity to get your point across?
Moms who use profanity don’t care what anyone else thinks about their parenting skills. What they do care about is their child’s safety, health, and happiness, and if they use a little colorful language on occasion – so be it.
They don’t take BS from anyone
You’re not just going to walk all over a mom who doesn’t mind using a little eyebrow-raising language. Moms who use swear words are rarely taken advantage of because no one wants to be on the receiving end of one of their lectures. Acquaintances, teachers, friends and family members know the number one reason for such a talk is a perceived wrong done to their child.
Profanity using moms are passionate
They may drop a good, mouthy expletive here and there to let people know they really, really mean what they’re saying. There will be no doubt in your mind where she stands on an issue.
They’re more creative
Psychologist Richard Stephens of Keele University who led a study published in the journal “NeuroReport,” found that people who curse are often more creative. It makes sense: the F-word is probably one of the only words that can be used as a noun, verb, adverb, adjective, and interjection.
They don’t care about being ladylike
Do you use your middle finger so often that’s it’s become an automatic reflex?
Do your coworkers have your blood pressure soaring on a daily basis? Anger is a normal emotion – but shouldn’t be bottled up. So, it’s important to know how to deal with it healthily.
Keeping your temper in check can be challenging. Use simple anger management tips — from taking a timeout to using “I” statements — to stay in control. So before you snap, it’s time to get your anger under control. Start by considering these ten anger management tips.
1. Think before you speak
Counting to ten is not just a clique. We’ve all said things in the heat of the moment that we’ve regretted. To prevent this from happening, take a little time to collect your thoughts before speaking. If you see others involved in the situation pausing before responding to you, be patient, they are probably trying to manage their anger also.
2. Once you’re calm, get it off your chest
Express your frustration once you become clear headed. Be assertive but non-confrontational. State your concerns and needs, without hurting others or trying to control or blame them.
3. Get some exercise
Physical activity can help reduce the stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.
4. Take a timeout
Timeouts aren’t just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what’s ahead without getting irritated or angry.
5. Identify possible solutions
Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your boyfriend constantly cancel dates at the last minute? Stop planning events that include him. Do your coworker always pick you up late for the carpool? Find another way to work. Remind yourself that anger won’t fix anything and might only make it worse.
Do your significant other have you on the verge of snapping?
Do your coworkers have you saving money for the eventual bail hearing? Are you screaming into your pillow at night trying to expel the rage that’s built up during the day? If you have answered yes to any of these questions you need some serious anger management classes.
Or, is the reason you’re wielding a bat like Negan from The Walking Dead because of your astrological sign. Take a deep breath and let’s take a look at the zodiac signs and see which ones are the most likely to snap.
I doubt you’ll be going on a killing spree anytime soon. Your compassion for people and willingness to listen hinders you from acting impulsively. You have an inner ability to calm yourself which helps you tolerate even the most insensitive person. The only thing that might have you resulting to violence is if someone threatens your family, at that point all bets are off.
You’re too creative to be a real killer. Oh, you’ll think of a hundred ways to do away with someone, but by the time you’ve imagined their demise in your head, the anger you felt for them will be gone. The importance you place on relationships with others will get you through even the toughest times.
You’re not the one to snap. Your ability to find a calming solution to your problems will help you get through most situations – no matter how frustrating. You can find ways to balance almost any issue without going off the deep end.
Probably not – unless there is some financial gain to be had. Your stubbornness and desire for control can be tricky, but your dependability and kindness should overcome any negative emotions you might have for someone.
You may plot, might watch a few episodes of CSI or Forensic Files for some pointers, but in the end, you know you have others depending on you. Doing a few years in Sing Sing is not in your cards, you’ve set your ambitions a little higher than jail.
Boobs or butt?
It’s a common debate man have tackled for years, probably centuries. A woman with a full bosom or “junk in the trunk.” Which is more desirable? Truthfully, most men will tell you they love both, but there’s inarguably something particularly alluring to the male population about a woman’s behind. So what gives? Why are backsides just so darn appealing to the male species? You may be surprised to find the answer lies in science.
Why Men Love Butts
A prominent derrière – or more aptly, the curved spine it’s connected to – held an important significance to our nomadic ancestors.
Eric Russell, a psychologist at the University of Texas at Arlington, says “Over the course of human history, women faced the adaptive problem of a forwarded-shifted center of mass during pregnancy.” Russell wrote, “”Women with a greater degree of lumbar curvature … were able to redistribute this center of mass to reduce the strain of pregnancy. Thus, we hypothesized that men should have a psychological adaptation to prefer these women as mating partners.”
A study conducted by a team of psychologists at Bilkent University in Turkey asked 300 men to rate female silhouettes with lumbar curvatures between 21 and 61 degrees. A moderate curvature of 45.5 degrees was the most favored, and further research explained that women with that level of curvature would have conferred with the evolutionary advantages mentioned earlier without preventing a higher risk for health problems, namely back troubles.
The most important revelation of the study was that the structure of the spine itself, not just the fat and muscle of the buttocks, was integral to a man’s level of attraction toward a woman’s rear.
I remember staring out the window at the rain bouncing off the barbecue grill. Looking, but not really seeing. How had things gone so wrong?How had all my plans for the future with Alex gone up in smoke in the blink of an eye?
Alex had called one night and said we needed to talk. That should have been my first clue that something was not right. Alex had never said those words to me before. Whenever he had something to talk about, he just – did. No grand pronouncement, no asking for permission, we would just talk about whatever needed to be discussed.
I had opened the door when Alex arrived and knew immediately that it was not going to be a pleasant conversation. But what he had said was totally unexpected. Of course, as the old adage goes, “hindsight is 20/20” which in this case is true because the signs were there.
“Mand, it’s not working for me,” Alex had said. “I’m feeling claustrophobic. Things are moving too fast.”
“Too fast?” I had said. “We’ve been together for over nine months.”
“Maybe we should take a break, you know?” Alex had suggested “See if we still feel like we want to take this to the next level.”
I had looked at him like he was crazy, like I couldn’t be hearing what I was hearing. Thinking this can’t really be happening. But it was, it did.
That night was six months ago but sometimes is seems like yesterday. Oh, the hurt and shock no longer persists but the anger of being used still lingers. I suppose that to will pass in time. The irony is Alex actually did me a favor. Looking back on the relationship, I was able to see that I had started to change. I had always been a strong woman. At least that’s what I told myself but I had started to accept things from Alex that I ordinarily wouldn’t accept from a man.
Sally stared up at the ceiling, arms flung wide across her bed as she contemplated her folly. She had met a nice man named Joe and they had hit it off but in her excitement to impress, she had promised to cook dinner for the pair. There was only one problem. Sally couldn’t cook. Not even a little. And the reality only set in after promises where made and assurances where given.
What now? She thought. What now?
It came to her on her morning commute. An ad played on her favorite podcast that she would normally skip over but this time it held her attention.
“Try Blue Apron,” the host explained in a chipper voice. “You receive fresh ingredients that are perfectly portioned to the recipe’s needs.”
Sally scratched her chin as she contemplated the service.
“Anyone can cook with Blue Apron!”
Anyone? Sally wondered. She planned to put that declaration to the test.
Sally received the box in time for the big night. She took a deep breath and went to work. Shrimp and fresh gnocchi was on the menu and she was determined to not screw it up. The cooking instructions came with pictures and she followed each step diligently, scrutinizing her work against the pictures.
After 30 minutes, she plated the dish. Before her was a mound of shrimp and gnocchi with bright yellow cherry tomatoes garnished with basil. Her mouth watered at the aroma and the meal matched the pictures. She nodded her head approvingly and went to clean up.
Sally watched him, probably a bit more intently than she should have, as he took the first bite. When he finished chewing, Sally realized she was holding her breath.
“Wow,” Joe commented. Sally’s eyes widened. “This is really good.”
“Really?” Sally replied hopefully.
Joe smiled. “Yeah, this must have taken a lot of work.”
Sally straightened her posture. “It was no problem at all, I’m glad you like it.”
“I’m going to have to return the favor,” Joe winked. “I’ll cook something for you.”
Sally blushed and she smiled brightly. Her mission was a success.
Joe stared at the ceiling with existential terror. Why had he promised he would cook something? Sally’s food was so good, there was no way he could top it but that didn’t stop him from running his mouth. Now, he had to deliver.
He opened his phone and looked through his contacts. He picked his best friend and called. He explained the situation, his friend mostly listening.
“So man, any ideas?” Joe said, finishing his tale of woe. Joe listened to his friend’s reply and received a promising suggestion… Blue Apron!
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You have found the one.
The process of falling in love with this guy has been exciting and you treasure every moment but somehow you feel like you are doing too much. Well, in every relationship you have to make some adjustments so that you can establish a strong bond. Some women are happy quitting their jobs to raise a family while others prefer not to have kids at all. But how much is too much when deciding what to sacrifice for your relationship? We’ll highlight a few things we think women should never sacrifice for their men.
You worked so hard to get to where you are but all of a sudden this guy walks into your life and you are ready to give it all up? Well, we don’t know about you but that’s just insane. In fact, it’s not something a strong, confident woman would do. If a guy loves you, he will encourage you to follow your dreams, not to give them up. Don’t be surprised when he leaves for another woman and helps her achieve her dreams.
Honestly, your relationship will never work if you compromise your values. We all have our own set of moral values and principles that we live by. If you believe in marriage then babies, don’t let a guy cheat you into having babies then marriage. It won’t be fair to you. Besides, if a guy doesn’t respect your values and principles, he doesn’t deserve to be with you. A guy will always respect a woman who stands firmly by her principles even if he breaks up with her.