He seemed to have his shit together… for a minute. It’s during the dating period of a relationship when you should be able to spot red flags that signal a problem. You want to recognize these negative qualities before your relationship becomes more serious. The following are four signs that the man you’re dating may […]
In our lives, we meet a lot of guys, but there are some who are made just for us to love. And sometimes, our zodiac signs can tell us a lot about those people we should love.
Aquarius (January 20 to February 18)
Wait for the guy who skips the small talk and goes right into the heart to hearts to really get to know you.
Intellectual conversations on one of your biggest wants, let alone biggest turn on when it comes to a relationship. As an Aquarius, you need to find a man who gets your thinking. So you need to find a man who loves to question everything there is in life and is obviously smart. You also need someone who is honest and doesn’t want to control you.
Someone who supports your ambitions because you’re known as one of the most independent signs and you expect to be treated how you treat others. Which is why you need someone who loves honesty, freedom, and spontaneity.
Pisces (February 19 to March 20)
Wait for the guy who is a hopeless romantic with an old-fashioned view of love.
You, Pisces, are one of the most romantic signs and you love being courted by a man with flowers, kisses, and everything in between. You need to find a man who is willing to go to all lengths of the world to be that romantic long-term relationship type of guy. A guy who truly wants a connection with you. Because you are not the girl who wants or needs a dating fling. You’re the wife-up kind of girl.
Aries (March 21 to April 19)
Wait for the guy who loves as hard and as unapologetically as you do.
Aries, you are full of fire, and when you fall in love with someone you love with everything in you. You’re not afraid to tell them how you feel or shower them with attention. The man you need to find is someone who loves how confident and adventurous you are.
You need a man who can handle the strong loving woman you are and who loves that about you. Find someone who is as entranced by you as you are by them.
Taurus (April 20 to May 20)
Wait for the guy who wants to know all your ins and outs, every little thing that makes you tick before making you his.
As a Taurus, you aren’t the type of girl who just dives into a new relationship. You look for someone who likes the same things as you. Appreciates their friends and family as much as you do and just someone who overall has your same life goals. You need a man who is patient and loving.
Someone who is not going to push you into a relationship while you are still trying to get to know them. Someone who wants the same things are you do in life and can make you feel a type of love and comfort you have never felt before.
Gemini (May 21 to June 20)
Wait for the guy with the spontaneous personality and a heart of gold.
You, Gemini, are a woman who gets bored way too easily. Men always seem to not be on your same energy and intellectual level… But you still love them. You need a man who understands the fun-loving person you are. You need someone who is passionate, exciting and knows exactly how to give you those butterflies. A man who loves to flirt just like you and can pass your communication and intellectual test.
Cancer (June 21 to July 22)
Wait for the guy who understands all of your moods and is always the one you run to when life becomes too much.
Cancer, you’re the girl who is all about your feelings and most of the time it has left you hurt in all of your past relationships. But it is a great trait when you find a man who is gentle and comforting just like you’ve always wanted. You need a man who understands emotions and knows how to make you feel great no matter the situation.
He should be strong but definitely in tune with his feminine side because you two will both be able to connect on a level you’ve never had with anyone else before. He should be a man who can speak without having to say a word.
Leo (July 23 to August 22)
Wait for the guy who knows who his true self is and is so self-assured it makes everyone around him feel at ease.
Since you’re a Leo you are one of the strongest women out there with a huge passionate side. You like being a leader in every situation, even relationships. But even though it has not worked as well with your past partners you will find a man who loves that about you. You need a man who is self-aware, reasonable and on the same intellectual level as you.
But you also need a man who stands up for what he believes in. Even though you are an alpha female, you want a man who can put you in your place, because something about that is just oh so sexy.
Virgo (August 23 to September 22)
Wait for the guy who doesn’t give up when times get tough, who’s going to stick by you through and through.
As a Virgo, you have a vulnerable heart and you’re not someone who lets people in easily. You’re also very hard on yourself at times and this can be because past lovers haven’t loved you and appreciated your kind heart the way you deserved. You need a man who is gentle and calm.
Someone who can break down your walls but in a slow meaningful way. A man who doesn’t play games and can be your best friend as well as your boyfriend.
Libra (September 23 to October 22)
Wait for the guy who loves to love as much as you do, who doesn’t just date to date.
Libra, you’re the girl who has a longing to find the one as soon as possible. You love relationships and are probably the best girlfriend anyone could ask for. You need a man who understands your caring and loving heart but also looks for a future in a relationship.
You really believe in commitment which means he has to feel as strongly about that as you do. Also finding a man who is deep and meaningful in all of his actions towards you will be the best one for you.
Scorpio (October 23 to November 21)
Wait for the guy who is a real man’s man but knows how to take care of you (in every way).
Since you’re a Scorpio, you just love people in general but when it comes to an amazing man you just go all in. Your biggest characteristics that you need in a man are intelligence and honesty. But you also need a man who is fun and not just in public… (wink…wink).
You need someone who can give you goosebumps at home as well as laughs and smiles. You need a man who falls as hard into love as you do but who can maybe stand waiting a bit before you’re all in when it comes to being official.
Sagittarius (November 22 to December 21)
Wait for the guy who’s a child at heart and can have fun doing absolutely anything.
As a Sagittarius, you are known as the girl who loves to play and make people laugh because the world is too short to not be smiling and laughing. You need a man who laughs and wants to laugh just as much as you do. Someone who is fun but also loyal, faithful, and wanting to fall head over heels in love.
You need a man who can work around you wanting to always be out having a good time no matter what. Someone who can help you realize that one day maybe you could settle down with him.
Capricorn (December 22 to January 19)
Wait for the guy who respects your independence but is also there with open arms for you to run to when you need him.
Capricorn, you’re the girl who doesn’t need a man but still wishes she had one. You look for someone who really is worth it because you don’t let just anyone break down your walls. You need a man who looks at you as the prize of all prizes a man who would climb any wall just so he could break it down to get to you.
Someone who understands that you only guard your heart because you’ve been hurt before and want to give it to someone who deserves it. You’ll need a man who is dedicated, smart, and way more loving than you think you need. He’ll make you feel wanted and loved and you will be so happy you kept your walls so high. Because you ended up finding a man like him.
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Loving them harder won’t make them want to stay; in fact it will only hurt you worse in the long run. It isn’t your fault; your hearts just don’t beat to the same rhythm. You’re never going to be good enough for the person who doesn’t love you. You may give them everything but it’s just going to fall short. It isn’t because you aren’t trying they just don’t see you in the same light. The truth is your love will never be enough for the wrong heart.
Save that for someone who isn’t going to make your relationship feel like work. Save it for someone who is going to accept your love with open arms, someone who just clicks.
There are several realities when this happens. When you’re not the right person for someone your smile isn’t going to be the light in a dark room. Your hand won’t be the one that reaches out & pulls them back in when they get lost. You may see want to see the future when you look in their eyes but they won’t. They are still looking for their forever person.
You will never be good enough for the one that doesn’t see you as the missing piece in their puzzle. The wrong person will have goals and dreams that won’t include you. They won’t put in the effort because they don’t want it to work.
You’ll be the one who is always making all the plans. The one who leans in for the kiss, and the one whose lips will linger longer. You will be the one to bridge the gap in larger spaces, to reach for their hand, with the right words to say. Where you see never ending beautiful fireworks the other person will already picture them as ashes falling to the ground.
You’ll never be enough for them and that’s okay.
It’s going to hurt. You’ll start making excuses for them, you won’t even realize you’re doing it but eventually someone will catch onto it. Someone will call you out on it, ask you why you put up with so much. In your mind it’s simply because you love them. There are a few little pockets of sunshine that become enough until it starts digging at you. Then you start blaming yourself for everything.
You begin trying to rationalize these irrational thoughts about what could be going wrong. Somehow you trick yourself into the idea that everything is your fault. When you’re upset you stop voicing your emotions, you stop communicating. Even when they’re wrong you are the first to apologize, you put your own needs on thee back burner & focus on them.
That sounds exhausting. Which you can’t deny because you know it is.
That still isn’t going to be enough. I know, frustrating right?
It’s alright to be sad that it didn’t work out. Maybe in the beginning they did have feelings for you. They just didn’t develop like the ones you felt for them. It doesn’t make them a bad person because they didn’t fall in love with you. Just like you’re not a bad person for falling for them. Sometimes relationships aren’t meant to last forever. You have to muddle through them till you find the person you just click with.
Love isn’t something that should be constantly scrutinized, it shouldn’t cause constant over thinking or worrying. It shouldn’t make you drive yourself crazy wondering when the next time is going to arise that you’ve done something wrong.
When someone loves you it’s going to be obvious. Someone who loves you won’t always meet you fifty-fifty but on the days that you need it they’ll pick up the slack. A person who loves you isn’t going to go running for the hills when the times get tough. They are going to hunker down and be there through the storm.
Brace yourself, because here lies the toughest moment, the moment that you don’t want to come but know needs to come. You have to pick yourself up and walk away. No matter how much you care for them you have to let go. I know being single is not an idea a lot of people like, the concept of not having someone that curbs your loneliness, not having that someone who you know better than yourself, and that someone that just makes your life a little bit brighter can be terrifying.
Let me give you a hint, time will be your best friend, and the more distance you put in between you and this person you’ll soon begin realize it was never meant to be. Instead of paying so much attention to the fact that you’re single put more focus on the fact that you are no longer with someone who doesn’t love you, because a one sided relationship never works.
Relationships are not easy, they take commitment, understanding, apologies, compassion, fighting, forgiveness, and love. The truth is there isn’t a perfect person out there, we all have flaws and insecurities but there is someone out there who is going to love and respect you despite them. Someone who isn’t going to just think you’re enough for them, they’re going to think they’ve hit the jackpot when it comes to having you in their life. That is the relationship worth fighting for, not the one that makes you feel insecure and unworthy.
So yes, heartbreak sucks. Unfortunately you’re never going to be enough for a heart that doesn’t beat the same way as yours does, and you don’t want to be with that person. The wrong person isn’t going to be the one that makes all the little moments in life great, the one who gets to see you at your best and receives all the love you have to give. The wrong person isn’t going to pick up on the the subtle hints when you’re having a bad day or know the right words to allow everything to make sense.
Save all of that effort and love for the one who has been through their own form of heartbreak, who acknowledges not everyone’s heartache is the same but knows that the right relationship is worth fighting through, and that love and a thoughtful and enriching relationship is worth it all.
Save it all for the right heart because then you’ll always be enough.
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It’s so hard to accept the fact that you still want a man who doesn’t want you because you’re not that girl. You know your worth, and it’s unfair because you know the only person you’re hurting is yourself… But damn, he somehow got you under his spell… And even though he left and broke your heart, you still can’t seem to let him go.
You know for a fact you were shortchanging yourself by staying with him. You’re certain there’s someone else out there who’ll love everything about you in ways that he never did…
But you’re struggling. You put so much effort into loving a person who didn’t love you back and you don’t want to admit that all that time was wasted. The last thing you want to happen to you is having your heart broken like this again. Because putting in this much effort is hard and it hurts…
You know that relationships are never easy or perfect so giving up was never an option… Until he left. That was the moment you realized that just because you wanted someone didn’t mean they wanted you too. And that was harder to accept than you ever thought possible. Because you did everything in your power to be the woman he wanted.
You loved every part of him, good and bad. But not only did that love not fix the problems you had as a couple, it’s made it terribly hard for you to let him go.
Your heart wants nothing more than to win him back but your mind is telling you, “he left, move on.” You meet a great new guy but just can’t find it within yourself to like him the way you liked your ex. Your world is shattered and you really have no idea where to start when it comes to living again.
But eventually, you will do it. Life will become easier and you’ll slowly start to forget him. You’ll start focusing on yourself more, learning what life is all about and remembering what’s important in relationships.
You’ll start realizing that yes, love is complicated, but it’s not the only thing that keeps people together. Just because you can’t put anyone else above him right now, doesn’t mean you’ll always feel that way. It just means you have a heart and that when you love someone… You love them with everything in you, and that’s a trait you need to hold onto!
Just take things day by day; live your life and mourn the loss of your love.
Eventually, it’ll get easier. Your heart will heal.
When it has and you can finally move on, you’ll be free to find the person who won’t ever leave your side. And when that time comes, you will completely understand why you’ve had to deal with all the heartbreak you’ve gone through.
She has always seen the light in you. And it’s something you’ve definitely taken for granted. She’s never questioned the bad, even though, you probably have more of that than good. She has loved you through everything.
She has always believed in you and never doubted your ability to reach your dreams. Even when you’ve doubted you’re own ability to achieve them. She has always supported you, never questioned you, and been the ride or die woman, any man would literally die to have in their life.
So why are you taking advantage of her? Why are you making her cry when all she has done is shown you love and encouragement? Why do you think it’s okay to risk the best thing you have ever had because you’re feeling selfish and know she won’t leave?
What if one day she does leave? What if another man comes in, in her time of need, and steals her from you, what are you going to say then? Are you going to finally be angry at yourself for not trying hard? For expecting this good woman to stay, because she has an amazing heart and a love like no other. You will be losing someone so loyal, and it will happen.
Because this girl you have is 1 in a billion. A woman who has her shit together and knows what she wants is a woman who is going to go far in life. She has goals and aspirations and nothing is going to stand in her way of achieving those, not even you.
But right now, she loves you with everything in her. She doesn’t think of your bad habits as an issue. She see’s them as a chapter in your life that you need, but will get through. She has so much faith in you at times she is completely blind… And you know that.
You know that she loves you so much that anything you do she will most likely get over, even being a bad boyfriend. But that’s not fair to her and eventually, she will catch on.
It’s also not fair that you are okay with being a shitty person while she is working on herself to be a better person for herself and also for you.
It’s not fair that you think it’s fine to do whatever the hell you want, but she has to be the perfect girlfriend. You expect so much from her, yet you think it’s okay for you to do nothing.
You need to wake up because if you don’t one day she will realize you’re not her future. She will realize that your work ethic isn’t where it needs to be. She’ll see how the person she loved with everything in her was taking advantage of her and it will break her heart.
It will be the worst moment of her life because you do have so much potential. But potential doesn’t make happiness. And neither does a man who doesn’t put his woman and her heart first.
So don’t be stupid. Don’t lose the girl who will be the best thing you will ever get because you will regret it.
And trust me, she won’t regret losing you.
If you’re looking to be her hero, you should start looking elsewhere.
She doesn’t want a hero. She wants a best friend. A person who loves her for her and a person who isn’t trying to “put her back together.”
She has come to terms with her brokenness. She has realized that no matter what, her past is her past, and it has helped her become the strong woman she is today. She doesn’t want a man who goes around thinking he can fix everyone.
Because what kind of person thinks that their presence will alter someone else’s past?
Probably a conceited person, probably a person who has never been hurt. And that’s not a person she wants to be with. She wants to fall in love with a man who has been broken just like her. She wants a man who has cried his heart out to a girl to try and keep her and still had to watch her walk away.
She wants a man who was his own hero just like she was because that’s a man with love to give. She wants a man who knows pain and heartache because that’s a man who knows what he wants.
She’s done playing these games. She wants someone who gets it. A man who knows that playing with someone’s heart can leave them scarred and forever changed. A man who just wants to love someone forever.
Because he knows how to love and he knows how to love with everything he is.
She’s learned that a man who only wants to “save” her is a man that’s not ready for a mature relationship. He is a man who doesn’t understand how being “saved” doesn’t change what has happened to you and it doesn’t make it hurt less.
She wants a man who understands what pain can do to a person, and how it is okay to have been broken by someone you loved. It’s okay to be lost, sad, hurt. Someone who understands that from being broken you can become the best you, you’ve ever been and that pain doesn’t last forever.
Because eventually, you will find the right person. You will be in love again and be more in love than you ever thought possible. She wants a man who has grown from his heartbreak but hasn’t given up on love.
Because she just wants a man who loves her. She is done running around with men who don’t care. Who act interested but then end up breaking her heart. She wants a man who is dedicated, sincere, and just ready to take on this world with someone by his side.
She just wants a man who has been there, done that and is now looking for the real deal.
Because even though she doesn’t need to be saved, she does want to be loved.
You need an ambitious girl in your life for many reasons, but if you have her as a girlfriend you really lucked out. Ambitious women have it all together, and they know how to treat their man right. So here are some of the many reasons you need to be dating an ambitious girl.
1. She is independent
An ambitious woman has her sh*t together and she likes it that way. She likes knowing she is all she needs to be happy and successful. A woman like her is someone guys hold onto because she is real and ready to take on the world with the right guy by her side.
2. She has dreams and no one is going to stop her from reaching them
She isn’t waiting for her prince charming to come around and make her life perfect. She goes out there and does it herself because she is already the Queen. She understands that if she wants something she has to work for it because nothing will ever be given to her.
3. She doesn’t play games
You aren’t messing with a child anymore, this girl is an adult and she isn’t about to play some teenage game with you. You either want all of her or none of her and she sure as hell isn’t afraid to walk away if you can’t give her what she deserves.
4. When she falls in love it’s the real thing
She doesn’t toss around love. When she falls she falls hard, but she makes sure it’s with a guy she see’s a future with because right now, she doesn’t have time to be wasting it on guys who only want to be around for a week.
5. She doesn’t need a man
The one thing you will have to get over is wanting to feel needed because she doesn’t need a man. She wants a man. She wants someone she can share her successes with and who will be by her side to go on amazing adventures with.
She wants a man who loves her for her ambition and sees her as one of the best things in the world. Because if you find a woman like this, she will be the one you won’t ever want to let go.
6. She wants to support herself and she can
It’s not that she doesn’t like a guy buying her flowers or wanting to pay for dinner every once in a while. She just wants you to know she is with you for who you are not what you can offer her because she can take care of herself. Who doesn’t want a woman like that, though?
7. She doesn’t look for hand-outs
She never asks for help because she knows she is just fine on her own. Hand-outs are a thing of the past and she is proud of herself for being able to support all the things she needs to.
8. She is one of the smartest women you will ever meet
She may even be smarter than you, but this girl is someone who knows her stuff. She is responsible with her money, she works hard, and she wants to be able to have a great life. This makes her such an amazing girlfriend because you never have to worry about her doing something that could hurt either of you.
9. She knows what she wants in her life
She isn’t okay with her life just being “ehhh whatever” she wants the best and she is going to make that happen! When you have an ambitious girl she is someone you see a future with. She is someone who will send you pictures of her dream house and say, “we will have this one day.” And in your heart, you know you will, because that’s how hard your awesome girl works.
10. She is wifey material you can take home to your mother
She is the girl of your dreams and someone your mother will love! So make sure if you don’t have yourself an ambitious girl yet, you go out there and find one.
11. Her love is unlike any other girls
She is the best girlfriend because her love is true. She wants nothing other than to make you the happiest man on earth and she usually does a pretty good job. You will love her because she is independent, smart, ambitious and has her sh*t together. But the thing you will love the most about her is that her heart and love will always be yours.
She really is a woman you need if you are looking to settle down and I promise you, us ambitious girls are so worth it.
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Whether you want to admit it or not, we all have deal breakers. Someone eventually brings them up in the getting to know each other phase, and while it’s usually done with a casual comment, we can’t deny that we’re suddenly on the edge of our seats wondering if we’ll have to bolt for the door.
Some deal breakers have always been important to us, but others come about because we’ve been burned and now know what to avoid. Either way, they are not to be taken lightly. Call them too specific, or maybe even unrealistic, but I won’t apologize for mine.
Lying. This sounds like a no-brainer since most people value honesty, but I’m talking about the subtle things. The daily lies you tell because you can’t be your true self with someone else. I’m not your keeper, but if you feel the need to edit where you were, who was there or what you did, I can promise you we won’t develop any type of trust.
Cheating. Infidelity is a golden rule for most people but it still needs to be said. I get it, humans are sexual creatures and are naturally drawn to other people. But if you’re not satisfied with just me, do us both a favor and don’t pretend you are.
Emotional Manipulation. If you want to make me feel bad about myself so that I rely on you, or isolate me from my friends so that I rely on you, or make me think you’re the only one who will want me so that I rely on you, don’t bother. Been there, done that and I’m never again letting someone else determine my self-worth.
Smoking. I don’t care if you think that’s shallow. You’re entitled to destroying your lungs just like I’m entitled to want nothing to do with it.
Making Demands. This goes with emotional manipulation. I will always value the opinion of the person I’m with. However, that doesn’t mean you have a say in where I go, what I do, what I wear, and who I’m with. If you want a puppet it won’t be me.
Rigidity. There are lots of things in life that we have absolutely no control over. If you think you can stick to a plan 100% of the time and are completely unwilling to compromise or are unflexible when things don’t go your way, we won’t work.
Conflict avoiding. Healthy couples fight, but what sets them apart is that they know how to communicate through challenges, instead of just sweeping issues under the rug. If you’re unwilling to acknowledge conflict and would rather pretend it doesn’t exist, I’m not interested.
Co-dependent. Couples who can’t function without each other isn’t sweet, it’s unhealthy. I want our individual strengths along with our shared ones to be what makes us great. I’m not looking for someone I CAN’T live without, just someone I don’t want to live without. And I don’t think that’s too much to ask.
I bet you can remember the exact moment when you close your eyes and the next thing you know you see him smiling back at you. Hell if you think hard enough you can still smell his cologne and feel the way his arms felt around you. The remnants of his lips on yours still lingers, especially when touching your lips.
I bet you catch yourself letting out a giant sigh because you wish for a moment you could have it all back.
But you know shouldn’t… And yet, you still do.
You want to hear his voice one more time tell you your three favorite words. You want to feel his chest against your head as he gave you the biggest hug. You want to lace your fingers in his and remember how you always wondered how they could be so rough and soft at the same time. It was like they were meant to just perfectly fit with your fingers.
Of course, it doesn’t seem to take much to bring you back to these memories, to a different time, to fantasy land. Whether it is a song, a movie, someone mentioning his name, or a lapse of de-Ja-Vu.
Don’t you just hate when that happens?
Sometimes these memories start with a smile and subtly fade away. Other times, out of nowhere, it feels like a sucker punch to the gut and the wind is knocked out of you, and you just become immersed in the pain all over again.
You begin to miss the person you used to be, the person you were when you were with him. You begin to miss the feeling of safeness when everything made sense.
You miss the comfortableness and the ease of everything. You start with the “what ifs” and the “could have been’s” and they literally eat away at you.
Being angry takes a lot of energy. Moving on means accepting things are truly over. Trust me I know it is a lot easier to hold on for dear life to the happy moments, to hold onto the bliss and push out all the painful memories. You were more open to experiencing different things because you weren’t scared of losing him.
You weren’t worried about his intentions or if your heart was going to end up shattered into millions of little pieces. You just weren’t afraid of losing him. You never thought about what life would look like if there wasn’t him and you.
Then it happened.
I imagine it like one of those moments in a movie when the entire world stands still. Everything comes crashing to a halt. What was once just the making of an absolute worst nightmare, suddenly becomes your reality, and life was no longer a bunch of happy memories of “us” and “forever” but now separated into “then” and “now”, to “him” and “you”.
Life doesn’t seem fair when you willing gave your heart to someone and hoped they’d have the decency to take care of it.
Listen though, I bet if you thought long and hard you probably don’t really miss him as much as you think, perhaps really, you just miss the idea of him.
More importantly, you miss what it felt like to have your heart whole. To not have to look at all of these broken pieces and wonder what you’re supposed to do now.
You miss what you knew because if we’re being honest the unknown is scary. Starting over and learning about someone new and opening up your freshly wounded heart is petrifying.
You miss knowing someone better than you knew yourself. It seems that it was really easy to take your love for granted because you never thought there would be an expiration date on it.
You made choices and set expectations because you never pictured the end.
It’s why you shy away when there are any chances of a romantic encounter. It’s why you try to find every reason why this one won’t work out and why you shouldn’t dip your toes in the water again.
It’s why when you start to think about allowing yourself to be vulnerable you pull away.
It’s easier to get lost in the memories than accept the truth of the situation. It’s hard to come to grasp with the idea that you don’t need to remember his birthday, his favorite food, or the things he hates.
You lose the comfort in knowing someone always called you at midnight on your birthday. Someone that knew which dates were important to you and knew how to console you when you were feeling down.
If we break that down a little more he was a safety net, he was your equivalence to a childhood blanket.
He made you feel safe, and when you begin to miss his voice and his presence, perhaps it’s because you miss the things he said to make you feel better. You miss having someone there for you when the going got tough.
Memories can be great things, and it’s okay to reminiscence every once in a while, but don’t allow yourself to get stuck there, because memories have a way of stopping you from living your life and creating your future. You have to make new memories, you have to let someone else in and you have to let yourself find happiness again.
Eventually, you have to let go.
It’s no fun to think about relationships in two ways, you’ll either end up with that person for the rest of your life and they’ll start an amazing journey with you, or you’ll break up and they’ll just be a stepping stone to who you’re supposed to be with.
I’m not saying go into every relationship with that mindset because there is too much pressure into thinking about people like that but instead to just take it all in. You lost him and it hurt like hell but you will move forward and meet the right person.
It’s okay to miss someone, you gave them a portion of your heart and your life and they did the same with you. In fact, you will always carry a piece of them with you, they’ve helped shape you into the person you are. They impacted your life in some way or shape, no matter the outcome of your relationship.
Real talk though, you do have to stop bringing yourself down, you absolutely have to stop opening up wounds that are trying to heal, because if you continuously mess with them you’re never going to get better, and let me tell you something you deserve to get better.
You deserve to be HAPPY.
Let me repeat that for those in the back, you deserve every shred of HAPPINESS this world has to offer.
Yes, being vulnerable and going through heartbreak has left a scar on your heart, but let that scar do more than hinder you. Let it guide you.
Let it be a lesson and a reminder that you are stronger than you believe and that you are capable of being loved and loving someone in return.
Take a moment to remember it all for what it’s worth but then, let it go. Break out of that fantasy land that everything is going back to how it was and start looking forward to tomorrow’s opportunities.
Because tomorrow could be the best day of your life if you let it. Tomorrow could be the start of a new journey. A journey that could lead to amazing things but first you have to pull your head out of the clouds, plant your feet on the ground, and start living your best life.
You deserve it.
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Relationships can be a real struggle, but having someone who loves you enough to deal with the daily struggles of life, is a wonderful feeling to have. And this is why our relationship is my favorite story.
You have been by my side through thick and thin, you’ve supported me endlessly in whatever I chose to do with my life. The most supportive you have been being when I left the job that I dreaded going to and finding a job that I was passionate about. You loved the fact that I finally went after a job that I want to have a career in. I have so much drive in me to run my own coffee shop down the line, but I never had the experience of working in a coffee shop until now.
Yeah, there are days I will text you that I am feeling overwhelmed with the job, but you remind me to breathe and take it easy. You remind me that this is what I am most passionate about.
I also love how you are so willing to help me with the kids. Whenever my nieces and nephew are around you help me out the best that you can. If I’m sick, you take over for me and help me out. If I want to take the kids out for a few hours and you are around, you go with me and you give me a hand with them,
I’ve been fortunate enough to find a love at the age of 19, that turned into the most amazing relationship. I hear so many people say how your 20’s should be about exploring. The thing is, I don’t want to explore this world without you by my side. I don’t want to fight with anyone else.
I don’t want to give another girl the chance to steal you from me. I want to be the girl who you tell your kids “we went through hell and back, but she was worth it every step of the way” I want to be the girl who walks down the aisle to you. The girl who makes you fall in love every single day.
Do you want to know why? You are the guy who has my heart, and the guy I want to fall hopelessly in love with until the end of time.
Is your relationship on the skids?
Since most people have more than one serious relationship in their lifetime, it’s safe to say that you’ve been in a relationship that has failed. The trick is not lingering in a failing relationship wasting precious time and being miserable. Recognizing the signs that your relationship has one foot in the grave and the other on a banana peel is crucial for either taking actions to correct what can be fixed or to let go of what’s not salvageable.
1. You’re always bickering
It seems like all you do is look for reasons to fight. Big or small, it doesn’t matter because it always ends in a massive conflict. The fighting is taking over your lives. It’s like every time you try to communicate; you end up fighting with each other.
2. You don’t talk about the future
If you suddenly go from discussing your future together to avoiding the discussion at all, then it’s showing a serious lack of interest to carry the relationship any further. Try to fix this by reopening the conversation again. If it’s just fatigue or work-related stress, talking about a happier future with your partner, even if it’s silly like living in eco-friendly housing, it can help lighten the mood and reopen the discussion.
3. You avoid each other
If it seems like you don’t have time for one another, that you’re too busy with something, the worst part can be that you don’t appear to mind not seeing each other often. If you’re actively looking for reasons not to see each other, or you spend more time with friends and family, anything to avoid being together, this is a definite danger sign.
4. No more cuddles
If affection has died down or it’s non-existent, the pecks on the cheek and the cuddling are gone, then this is a huge problem. The greater the distance between you physically, the more it increases emotionally as well.
5. All about you
When “we” start going out of the picture and it’s “me” again, it’s a sign that you and your partner are no longer including each other in anything, then that’s a huge indicator that your attachment to each other is gone. Again, if you’d rather spend time alone than with them, it’s a sad sign your relationship is failing.
6. Distance keeps growing
The times you would be very attentive, always texting, calling, Skyping, Instant Messanger, emailing has come to an end. Now only one of you is planning outings while the other most often finds reasons to renege on them.
7. Things aren’t good in the bedroom
The physical attraction has waned, or it’s nonexistent. The lack of sex can show the waning of overall attraction. Being physical with one another is vital in a relationship, and the absence of it is one of the best indicators of a failing relationship.
8. You’re not happy
This one’s pretty obvious. If your relationship is the source of more depression and dissatisfaction than joy, if you’re not excited just to be around them again, then something is very wrong.
9. The negative outweighs the positive
Everybody has flaws, but when you love someone, you choose to look past them and concentrate on their good qualities. When their flaws start overshadowing their positive aspects, then the relationship is really in trouble, since little things are going to lead to arguments more often.
10. You start noticing other people
This is another significant sign. If you’ve lost interest in your partner, then it’s natural for you to be attracted to other people instead. When this happens, you know your relationship is doomed, and you should get out of it NOW before you end up doing something you’ll regret!
11. Constant criticism
Negative words without constructive criticism, without being tempered with affection, leaves no room for either of you to grow. It’s unhealthy for both of you, so you should call it quits and save yourselves the misery and stress.
12. Listen to your gut
In the end, you know yourself more than anyone, and when something feels off, it probably is. Go with that feeling and trust your instincts.
There’s never a time when you need to hold onto something when you know it will just become destructive. All the hope and faith in the world can’t save a relationship where both parties aren’t willing to work on their problems. And it’s hard to fix things once they are broken.
People drift apart. This is natural and if it happens to you, don’t fight if there’s nothing to fight for. The only time to try and save a relationship is when you’re both willing to change, and you can both look back and see something worth saving. If not, then it’s time to move forward, for both your sake. – C. Sky
People look to enhance their lives by adding the company of a stable, confident and emotionally uncomplicated person. No one wants to be around someone who is constantly giving off negative vibes because of their low self-esteem. Who wants to constantly be on an emotional roller-coaster because their partner lacks confidence and is always jealous or insecure?
Before you can have a successful long-term, healthy relationship, you have to be secure in your own skin. Someone who sees the value of their self-worth will not accept being disrespected by their partner or any other person. Small issues that pose no problem in a relationship between two self-assured people can grow into an erupting volcano when one partner feels insure due to prior experiences.
A partner coming home later than expected, failing to return a phone call or text, talking to a pretty co-worker, or just giving your female friend a compliment, can send someone with low self-esteem through the roof. A woman who is confident and knows her value will not start drama over innocent occurrences.
If you suffer from low self-esteem that negatively affects your relationships, all is not lost. Sure you can seek out therapy, but you can start making changes on your own. Remind yourself that your partner chose you. He saw something in you that he found appealing. Unfortunately you may be starting to unravel his feelings of attraction by becoming clingy, jealous, and suspicious of everything he does. Especially if he hasn’t given you any reason to feel that way.
Relationships are supposed to be fun, not constantly filled with drama and volatile. No one wants to account for every minute of the day that they are away from their partner. Remember that the more freedom and love you give, the more positive the response will be from a partner who truly wants the relationship to work.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t show anger when anger is warranted. But a lack of self-esteem commonly results in poor emotional regulation and impulsive unrestrained outbursts. Learn to take a deep breath and do a quick analysis of the situation to ensure your anger is appropriate.
Before you throw a glass of water in your guy’s face because you saw him smile at the waitress on his way to the table, take a deep breath. Ask yourself if that reaction is appropriate or if your low self-esteem is causing you to see things that are not there.
Keeping a journal in which you write your thoughts in can be a first step to managing your urge to respond explosively. Instead of lashing out at your partner, excuse yourself and write down your feelings in your journal. After about half an hour return to your partner to discuss how you feel without accusations and drama. Limit your discussions to short intervals and let your partner know you appreciate him listening to you.
In healthy relationships, partners respect and trust each other. Admitting to your partner that you have trust issues due to low self-esteem can encourage your partner to work with you to help you solve your problem.
Remember that love cannot be forced. If your relationship is filled with unnecessary drama, and too many demands, it will soon end. Loving your partner in such a way that he feels able to communicate with you without you twisting his words or actions into some not existent problem will strengthen your relationship. Openly acknowledging and working on your self-esteem issues together invites respect and a longer-lasting, more rewarding relationship for the both of you. -Char Brown
Who doesn’t want to hear the words “I love you?”
But do the spoken words mean the same to both partners? Relationship experts explain that the phrase is often perfunctory and other words can better convey how you feel about someone.
So here are five statements you can make to let your partner know you are appreciative of them and that you are paying attention.
1. “Thank you.”
Two words that aren’t used enough. Gratitude is something that we all need and seek from people. If we do something nice for our partner, we naturally want to be thanked. By thanking them, we demonstrate that we recognize our partner’s contributions and value what they bring to the table. It’s also positive reinforcement–if they know they’ve done well, they’re more likely to repeat the good behavior in the future. If they don’t know you care, they may not.
2. “I appreciate everything you do.”
Yes, this is expanding on “thank you,” but consider it a polite acknowledgment to add to your repertoire of sincere compliments.
It’s another way to tell your partner that you value them and the contributions they make to our lives. Affirmations are fuel for a happy relationship. They keep us going when it doesn’t feel like the rest of the world appreciates us. They strengthen the bonds of the relationship and lead to an even greater desire for intimacy and closeness.
3. “I’m here for you.”
Feeling like you’re alone during a crisis is one of the worst things you can feel. Everyone needs reassurance, especially during the tough times that every relationship eventually faces.
When a partner screws up, this reassurance can go a long way to help them correct their mistakes in the future. It also helps them know that your feelings haven’t changed, and they still have your love and support.
4. “I love you the way you are.”
For your relationship to move to the next level, you need to start expressing an unconditional love for your partner. If you offer that unconditional love, then you’re strengthening your intimate relationship. Without that, we’re just one screw up away from our partners seeing us in a negative light, losing respect for us, and looking for an escape route.
5. “I care about your feelings and value your opinions.”
For any relationship to be healthy, it’s important that people feel their partner takes them seriously and listens to their views.
We don’t always agree with our partners, but fully listening and accepting them is still essential when two people are struggling with an issue that they feel differently about. Considering your partner’s feelings and opinions is necessary for compromising and finding solutions that are agreeable to both parties.
Of course, words alone are meaningless. So listen to the words your partner says but make sure they are backed up by their actions and make sure they are consistent.
– C. Sky