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No matter how confident you are in your everyday life, when it comes to relationships it’s all too easy for insecurity to creep in. No matter how loyal your boyfriend is, or how great your life together may be, you may still harbor fears that he is cheating. That he will find someone new, or that the spark is slowly seeping out of your sex life.
The fact that those fears are often unfounded does not make them any less real. Perception is reality, and if you want to overcome insecurity in your relationship you need to change the way you look at yourself. Here are 10 tips you can start using right now.
#1. Practice Turning Negative Thoughts Into Positive Ones
You do not have to be a meditation guru to turn your negative thoughts into positive affirmations. Just think about the things that bug you and make you feel insecure, then look for more positive ways to express those thoughts. You might not get it right 100% of the time, but practice makes perfect.
#2. Stop Obsessing
Obsessing over your insecurities will not make them go away. In fact, obsessing over things you wish were different will just make those problems loom larger in your life.
The next time you find yourself obsessing about something that makes you insecure, try looking for ways to change it. If you can change it, work out a plan to do so. If it cannot be changed, stop obsessing and let it go.
#3. Make Time for Yourself
You do not have to be your boyfriend’s servant and mother. You and your partner should be on equal footing, and you should not be afraid to make time for yourself. If your boyfriend does not understand that you need me time once in a while, you need a new boyfriend.
#4. Understand that Your Partner Still Has Eyes
He’s a man. He can’t help looking at an attractive woman from time to time. If he didn’t respond to good looking women, he wouldn’t be your boyfriend in the first place. Learn to stop obsessing about every wayward glance, and resist the urge to punish your boyfriend for a mere look.
Has somebody wronged you in a way that you find hard to forgive?
Are you holding on to resentment and anger? These types of emotions have a way of controlling us. Would you like to learn to not live in a constant state of hatred or resentment? The answer lies in forgiveness.
When you think of forgiveness, you may be inclined to think that you would be doing it for the benefit of the person against whom you hold resentment. The fact is that forgiveness is the only way to achieve serenity and peace of mind. How many times in a day do you think about the wrong done to you? How often do you think about something you would say or do to get back at the person who wronged you? The reality is that you are allowing another person to control your emotional state of being.
When you forgive another person, you’re not telling them that what they did was okay. Perhaps you have suffered a real tragedy at the hands of another person. Forgiveness is about your being able to let go of strong feelings that dominate you. When you forgive another person you are taking charge of your life and making the decision not to let another person ‘rent free space in your head’.
How to Forgive
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We all are guilty of some of these actions.
The best thing to do is remember each day to live your life to the fullest, be grateful for, and appreciate the things that makes us happy.
Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no one in the world capable of blocking every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve every problem. We are emotional beings, we’re made to feel sadness, anger, hurt, stumble and sometimes fall. The whole purpose of living is to face life situations … learn, love, teach, adapt, and solve problems over the course of time. Dealing with your problems is what makes you strong.
One of the saddest things is losing yourself in the process of loving someone else. Forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but don’t neglect yourself. If there was ever a moment to follow your dreams and do something that matters to you .…that moment is now.
No one is strong 100 percent of the time. It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t have to pretend that everything is going well when it’s not. Stop being concerned with what other people are thinking – cry if you need to – let someone hold you if it’s necessary – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself. Face the facts…. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but there will never be another you!
Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the joy right out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.
Managing your career is already hard enough.
Throw a relationship into the mix and you start pulling out your hairs because you feel stressed already. It sounds really tempting to skip work and go on a fun filled date with your beau but on the other hand, you can’t sacrifice your career goals simply because you want a strong relationship with your man. The good news is that you are not the only woman who’s been in such a situation. Even better news is that it’s entirely possible to manage your career and your love life.
Quick fact: People in successful relationships make more money, are healthier, live longer and get more promotions than single people do.
So how exactly can you balance your relationship and your career without compromising any of them?
Get your priorities in order
Do you find yourself putting more weight on one aspect of your life than the other? It happens and that’s just how life is but you can do something to change the situation. As a career woman, you can’t let your co-workers or your boss think that you don’t care about your job. On the other hand, you don’t want your beau to think that you care more about your job than you care about him. So how do you handle the situation?
Simply show your beau and your co-workers that they are a significant part of your life. When they feel they are valuable to you, neither one of them will feel like you are prioritizing one over the other.
Keep your job and your love life separate
I see you everywhere.
You’re on my Facebook, posting selfies of your latest workout as sweat drips from your brow, words like dying, puking, exhausting are hash-tagged underneath.
My Instagram is filled with pictures of you, sporting your Lorna Jane as you burn away the calories of the cake you shouldn’t have eaten, but were too weak to resist.
You sit opposite me, order your salad, no dressing, and berate yourself for being a pound heavier this week.
You are fraught with comparison, with how short you fall next to the mothers at the playground you’ll never be as fit as, the group of women at the gym you’ll never be as strong as, the bodies in the magazines you’ll never be as sexy as. You beat yourself up. Promise that tomorrow you’ll eat less and work out more. No excuses, no matter what. Push yourself, purge yourself, pressure yourself.
I was once like you. I obsessed over the number on the scale, lived by punishment or reward, survived on protein shakes, and applauded myself for staying under 1,000 calories a day. I worked out, no matter what. No matter how tired my body was, no matter how run down, exhausted, or unwell. I worked out until I almost threw up, head over my knees, rebuking myself with slogans. Go hard or go home. Unless you puke, faint or die, keep going. Excuses are for people who don’t want it bad enough. I pushed past the pain and worked out when my muscles were fatigued, when my body screamed for me to stop, when I injured my knee, my shoulder, until I eventually tore a disc in my back.
And that changed everything.
There are certain tasks that are traditionally relegated to men, but the truth is that you don’t need to wait for a man to do any of the things listed. YouTube is a great source for getting step by step instructions on just about anything you can think of. So knowing how to do these ten things without a man’s help is a piece of cake.
1. Changing a Flat Tire
This job might seem daunting, but you’re just as capable of accomplishing it as any man who thinks he knows best. You can find detailed, step-by-step instructions online or in a manual. Practice changing the tire before you’re in an emergency situation, that’s not the time to pull out the manual. I know you are saying “but I have AAA” which is good, but not if there isn’t any cell phone service or your phone is dead.
2. Painting (and I don’t mean landscapes)
Small paint jobs are not that difficult and there’s no reason to wait for a man to do the painting. Just start with small projects before you tackle any major painting jobs. And you might want to enlist the help of a friend if ladders are involved for safety reasons. Make a girls day out of it, capped off with some apple martinis and pastries at the end.
3. Knowing About Technology
With the abundance of information on the internet, there is no reason not to be tech savvy when it comes to the latest technology. Don’t rely on the sales person or your significant other to know all the pertinent information needed to make the best buy. Just imagine the sense of pride you will feel knowing you can make an intelligent choice when it comes to picking out the latest big screen TV and the look on your man’s face, priceless.
4. Fixing a Leaky Faucet
It’s time you put yourself first… at least for a few hours a week.
When 2017 rolls in, the pressure will be on to make resolutions to improve yourself. Usually, they include promises to lose weight, eat better, be kinder, and establish other good habits. While you shouldn’t give up these attempts to be a better person, you need to balance them with some self-care resolutions. Commit to doing one or more of the following at least once a week.
Set aside four hours to unplug from all electronic devices, including your cell phone. If you simply can’t be unconnected for that long, try two 120 minute periods. Set the boundaries with your family and friends so they know you won’t be available. In case of emergency, have your partner, a child, or a friend serve as your contact. Experts say that unplugging is necessary for a number of reasons. Everyone’s brain needs a rest from the constant onslaught of social media, email, and texts. In fact, taking a break can help you be more productive and may even improve your memory. You will be able to unwind and enjoy reading a book or taking a quiet walk. Being constantly available to everyone is not good for your health or your peace of mind.
No matter how young or old you are, you can begin to live the life you want.
In order to get the life you want, you may need to do things differently than you’re doing now. Changes will create different results. Here are four things that you can begin doing today in order to get the life you want.
1. Live intentionally
Every day you have choices to make. You decide what you’re going to eat, if you’re going to workout, and what you’re going to spend your free time doing. If you don’t decide these things, someone else is going to. Don’t allow yourself to be a follower. When you’re a follower, you aren’t going after the life you want for yourself. You can choose to watch four hours of TV or work on the novel you want to write. By living intentionally you can live the life you want to.
2. Surround yourself with like-minded people
Running out to the shops on a whim can be dangerous for your pocket if you’re not set on your purchases, you may come home with more than you bargained for. Simply setting up a budget or having a general idea is not good enough if your aim is to save. Shopping smartly is in everyone’s best interest when the economy is a bit shifty.
1. Know What You Need
Heading into the shops and wandering about aimlessly is a sure way of getting things you don’t need, and forgetting things you do. This will cost you longer in the long term as you will need to go back to the shops to get those items later on.
2. Is It A Need Or A Want?
Getting a nice dress or a new nail varnish may seem like a good idea at the time, but getting to the last week before payday and having to access your credit card for fuel will make you regret the purchase. Ask yourself whether you would still have bought the item if you didn’t earn an income and the item’s priority will probably drop a few notches. Instead, rather save a little every month until you have enough to buy the item.
3. Know Where To Shop
Try purchasing from local grocers and butcheries as opposed to shopping at mass retailers. Contrary to popular belief, their prices are really good and you know you’re purchasing fresh goods. The more you purchase from them, the better your relationship. This will ensure that you get great cuts of meat and the best fresh produce.
Whether you are dealing with colleagues or having a casual encounter with a stranger, your body language can tell them what you’re about before you even utter a single word.
Body language mistakes are rarely made by confident and successful people. They don’t even think about their body language; it’s ingrained in their make-up. But if you are not at that confidence level just yet, here are a few gentle reminders to put you in the best light possible when interacting with others.
A lack of eye contact can indicate that you’ve got something to hide or that you lack confidence and interest. Maintaining eye contact is crucial – it conveys confidence, leadership, and strength.
A proper handshake is essential. Although a handshake only lasts a couple of seconds, a bad one can leave an enduring impression on someone.
Studies have shown that people who start job interviews with a firm, strong handshake are always perceived in a more favorable light than those who have a limp handshake.
Slouching or poor posture signals that you lack confidence and have low energy levels. If your back is curved, and your shoulders are pointing inwards, it makes sense that you will appear physically smaller.
Working from home can be a great way to either supplement your income or earn a full- time living. Most work from home jobs only require a computer with a high speed internet connection and a phone line. With a bit of research and precaution, it is possible to find legitimate work from home jobs that can provide you with flexibility as well as additional money on the side. Here are 20 of the top ways you can begin earning money from home.
Do an online search for telemarketing positions from home. Most positions require that you have high speed internet and a dedicated phone line. Telemarketing can be an easy way to begin building your paycheck at home.
Many businesses will pay you to process orders by email from home. There are many companies that will also hire you as a typist to process orders. You can charge a flat rate per order or even request to be paid per hour.
Offer to create and manage a blog for a local business. You can charge a flat rate to create the blog and then charge an hourly management rate. Many business owners know that they need a social media presence but simply do not have the time for it.