The most important rule is to stay on target. Stay focus on the topic at hand and don’t bring up issues that happened in the past.
2. Respect Is Key
Once you stop keeping things respectful, most arguments veer into the “bad fighting” territory.
3. If you are wrong, apologize
It doesn’t make you a wuss to apologize if you’re mistaken or crossed the line from fair fighting into the Bad Lands. Rather than making you look weak, it shows your partner that you respect them.
4. Don’t bring in a third party
Arguing with your partner is not a tag-team sport, so don’t bring in your sister, mother, or best friend. A good way to make your partner feel disrespected and isolated is to bring in others to the argument. Similarly, psychologists strongly advise against comparing your partner to someone else.
5. Don’t fight dirty
Know that there are certain lines you don’t cross and for each couple those lines are different. But you know what they are. If you cross one of those lines, if you try to get the upper hand by bringing up something you know is hurtful, don’t be shocked if you can’t repair the damage you do.
by Char Brown