We all know that in order to have a healthy and happy relationship, you must be able to trust your partner. Unfortunately, dishonesty and deceit are quite common between romantic partners. Therefore, being aware of the main warning signs for dishonesty in a relationship is important. Here are six red flags of deception you need to look out for.
Someone who is engaging in deceitful behavior usually wants to avoid direct confrontation. To avoid conflict or the chance of being caught, they will dodge questions, cut short discussions, offer vague answers, or otherwise act in an evasive manner. Watch out for certain topics that trigger evasive behavior in your partner, they might be hiding something.
Ever ask your partner a seemingly innocuous question and have them go off on you? People who know they are doing something shady are often prone to take almost anything as an accusation or attempt to uncover their deceit. A dishonest partner will often be extremely defensive, sometimes in a paranoid or irrational way.
- Less emotional intimacy
In a healthy relationship, emotional openness and closeness is abundant, but someone who is being deceitful will usually feel less comfortable around their partner. You may notice your partner talking to you less often, spending less time around you, or simple becoming less interested in your emotional needs or well-being.
- Lack of eye contact
While it may not be admissible in a court of law, it is true that liars often avoid meeting the eyes of the person they are lying to. That’s because the eyes can easily betray deceit. It’s also harder for most people to lie to someone when meeting their gaze directly. If someone who usually makes lots of eye contact starts to look at everything but you when talking, they may very well be hiding something.
People who are being dishonest frequently have trouble keeping their story straight. Their explanations may suddenly change or have inexplicable inconsistencies. Their details are fuzzy, and they will often seem to be making things up as they go along. If your partner regularly tells stories that don’t seem to add up, they may be deceiving you.
- Concrete evidence
Screenshots, pictures, recordings, video, texts… These are the ultimate pieces of evidence that someone is lying. If you catch your partner in an outright lie, you know that you have a huge problem on your hands. In such circumstances it is time to stop wondering about if your partner is being dishonest, and time to start thinking about how you will deal with the problem.
When people think of dishonesty in a relationship, they often associate it with someone who is cheating. But deception concerning other matters can be extremely damaging as well. After all, relationships are built upon trust. While you shouldn’t be paranoid about your partner’s honesty, especially if they haven’t done anything to give you pause about their truthfulness, it is good to be aware of the primary red flags for deception.