When you get into a relationship with a man, you get into a relationship with his friends and family members whether you like it or not. You might be lucky to get into a relationship with a man who has super cool friends and you all get along but what if you are not fortunate enough? What if you find his friends to be rude, ignorant and arrogant? What if you just hate their attitudes? It might not be all his friends but there’s that one friend who gets on your nerves every time. The bad news is you can’t get rid of his friends but the good news is you can learn to deal with them. Here’s how to go about it.
Look beyond the first impression
So maybe the first time you met him you didn’t like him very much but if you give him a second chance you might get to know him better. Maybe he was just having a bad day when you met him or he has issues going on in his life. We are not saying that just because he has issues going on in his life or he was having a bad day you should put up with his behavior towards you but it will help you understand him better.
Bring your friends along
When you are hanging out with your beau and his friends, you might feel left out. They crack jokes you don’t even understand, they have their own secret handshakes and they have this secret language that you just don’t get. It’s easy to feel left out of a group when you are the newbie and which makes it easier to hate the group members. So why not bring your friends along to help diffuse any tension. Besides, the guys are less likely to continue with their secret codes and language once they realize your girl pals are around.
You don’t have to hang out with your man’s friends every time he invites you. Hanging out with people you don’t like can be both overwhelming and stressful. Imagine having to put on a fake smile and maybe do a fake laugh when they crack jokes you don’t even find funny an entire afternoon. It’s way better to politely decline when your man invites you to hang out with his friends.
Don’t try to get him to dump his friends
Don’t put your man in a position where he has to choose between you and his friends. He loves his friends and if he’s known them much longer than he’s known you, he will dump you. Constantly complaining about his friends won’t do any good for your relationship either. Would you like it if he told you to dump your friends because he doesn’t like them? These are his friends and they aren’t going anywhere any time soon.
Spend time with your friends
If you can’t stand spending time with his friends why not spend time with your friends? We hope you aren’t one of those women who ditch their friends once they get into a relationship and only rekindle the friendship when their boyfriends dump them. Make frequent plans with your friends if you can’t stand the thought of hanging with your man’s friends.
Don’t let his friends affect your relationship
You probably have crappy friends but does that mean you suck too? Probably not so don’t let your boyfriend’s shitty friends affect your views about him. If he is a good person, he treats you right and he doesn’t let his friends interfere with your relationship, there’s no need to end your relationship with him.
If one of his friends makes you uncomfortable, be open about it and tell your boyfriend. If he is a good boyfriend he will talk to his friend and rectify the situation real quick.
You might not get along with your beau’s friends at first but once you get to know them, you’ll find they are not absolute jerks after all. However, if you don’t get along and you don’t see yourself ever getting along with them, you can choose to stay in the relationship and suck it up or you can end your relationship and find a guy who has friends you can get along with.
Does your boyfriend have friends you can’t stand? Let us know how you cope with them.