Is he still pining over his ex?
You have a nagging suspicion that your boyfriend is not over his ex. That he’s not ready to move on and commit to the relationship. Before you get too emotionally attached to this man you need to recognize the signs that he STILL might not be over his ex.
He still gets emotional whenever he talks about his ex
Does your boyfriend get that far-away look in his eyes and the tiniest of smiles when he mentions his ex? Or does he blowup and call her a bitch? Either scenario might signal that he is not totally over her. You may be setting yourself up for heartache if you get involved with a man who still harbors feelings for his last love. No one wants to be the rebound girl, because it rarely works out in your favor.
He can’t stop comparing you to her
Who the hell wants to constantly be compared to their boyfriend’s ex? Most of the time it’s done in a complimentary way. He might say that you have a sweet smile just like his last girlfriend, or his ex was gentle and kind just like you.
Of course there is the other side of the spectrum where he may suggest that his ex is smarter or more athletic (which is code for skinnier) than you. No matter how the comparisons are done, he probably still has feelings for his ex.
He still talks with her… a lot
No one is saying that he can’t communicate with his ex from time to time but when he is constantly texting or talking with her, it might mean that he still hasn’t cut his emotional connection with her. Secretly, he might be hoping that they get back together, leaving you out in the cold.
He still checks her social media
If your boyfriend is always up to date on his ex’s latest post, and if his browser history is full of her social media accounts, he is still hung-up on his ex. It might be time to decide if you want to take the chance of getting too involved with someone who is not ready to move on.
He still keeps her gifts and pictures
Look, if he wants to keep an expensive piece of jewelry that his ex gave him as a present, I’m okay with that if there is no longer any sentimental attachment to it. But if he views the presents from his ex as precious mementos and thinks about her every time he looks at them, he is still smitten with his ex.
You sense that something is “off”
Every woman has it, just some choose to ignore it, while others act on it… intuition. If he is saying all the right words but his actions are telling you something different, believe his actions. A lot of us know early on in a relationship that something is not right. But we may really like the guy and give him the benefit of the doubt, even when our gut is telling us to GET THE HELL OUT!
These signs are to help you make a decision about the directions of the relationship. Don’t just sit back and hope things get better, or tell yourself that you’re just being silly. Clear the air, ask him about his feelings for his ex. Be honest about your concerns and don’t take his denials at face value. You have to remember that you deserve someone who is going to be capable of letting go of his ex and able to fully commit to a new relationship.