It’s a heartache a lot of women go through every single day, and each and every one of them wouldn’t wish this problem on anyone. The hardest part about being a woman who may never be able to have her own babies is the fact that it’s never talked about.
Why are fertility problems looked at as this taboo subject that no one is supposed to speak of? First of all, this isn’t fair. It makes women who do have issues with fertility feel like they are broken when they definitely are not.
It puts them in this group of outcasts that feel as if they can’t confide in others due to judgment. Like people believe they somehow did something wrong to make it to where they are having problems having a baby. Well, It’s never the women’s fault, ever. And it is naturally hard to get pregnant. So to make women feel less due to reasons they can’t control is ridiculous and hurtful.
It’s also hurtful because society needs to start talking about fertility issues more and not act like it’s such a behind the scene topic.
Diseases that affect fertility like Endometriosis and PCOS need to be talked about more. They need to be brought into the light so that women and others know why these issues are such a pain in the ass. Women who are already dealing with the sad reality that they may never have kids are already dealing with enough.
They do not need society gripping down their throat on how if they don’t have a kid or can’t have one, they are not a woman. The reality of the matter is, having fertility problems is heartbreaking.
It’s heartbreaking because what if you never get to start a family of your own due to circumstances you can not control? It’s heartbreaking because what if all you’ve ever wanted to be was a mother and now that might be stripped away from you?
It is heartbreaking because you have to watch while everyone else can get pregnant and have babies while you can’t. Or if you do, you end up with more miscarriages than you would like to admit.
It’s heartbreaking because you see children being born into horrendous situations as well as to people who never wanted kids… And it’s not fair!
The pain you go through from the day you find out is tremendous. And you cry yourself to sleep because you hope that one day you will get to hold that miracle baby.
Being a woman with fertility problems isn’t fair, it’s not happy and it is full of stress. But these women are strong. They have faith and they never give up. You need to understand that having a baby isn’t that easy. It’s not something that is timed out or that can even be expected for some.
So before you go asking, “when are you guys going to have a baby?” Maybe you should keep it to yourself. Because you never know who is crying themselves to sleep every night wishing they were having one.
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