I recently did the big chop and cut my hair off. I absolutely love my new do and the ease that comes with it. In fact, cutting my hair to its shortest length ever was a huge milestone for me.
Yes, a haircut was a milestone!
So many people asked me, “why did you cut your hair?” The answer; identity. Now I know this sounds silly so I will explain.
To preface, I have cut my hair before, but this time it was much easier and with every snip, I felt a load come off. Years of baggage, negative experiences, and toxic thoughts fell as if they were each individually attached to each strand of hair.
Growing up, I was teased and I never really felt like I belonged. I didn’t have the best clothes, I didn’t hang around the popular crowd, I just didn’t feel like I actually fit in with anyone. However, the one thing I always received compliments for was my hair. It was curly, voluminous, and the one thing that everyone loved about me. When I realized this, I vowed to grow it as long as it could go and refused to cut it at any cost. I can recall being at the hairdresser and fighting with her to cut a piece of hair that clearly needed to be trimmed. My hair had me, it was my identity.
This cut was liberating for me because it emphasized personal growth and taking control of those toxic thoughts that I had toward myself. Thoughts such as, “I’m not pretty enough, good enough, smart enough.” I reclaimed so many pieces of myself that I had lost over the years and was able to look in the mirror, smile, and accept myself for who I am and what I have become. Goofy, happy, smart, successful, passionate, loving, and beautiful inside and out.
What holds your identity? Is it your hair, your physical fitness, education, career? Whatever it is, I challenge you to confront it head on and ask yourself; why do you have to have or do that thing? What life event led you to hold on to a certain area with a clenched fist? What can you do to overcome?