Lately, we all have been seeing a lot of women on social media voicing their experience with domestic violence. And not just a slap here or there but a brutal beating that puts them in the hospital. I still can’t wrap my head around how someone who loves someone else could end up harming them like that, but it happens, and it happens a lot.
Our society has this problem with wanting to suppress domestic violence and act like it’s not a big deal, but 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. This is a problem that we need to start being addressing more because women are being killed by the men they love, and who supposedly love them back…
If a man ever lays his hands on you, you need to leave. It will only get worse and you could end up dead. And once that happens, there is no coming back. There is no you get to find the man you were supposed to or have the family you always wanted. It stops, and you’re done on this earth.
A man who can hit you doesn’t love you. He only cares about controlling you and making sure you do exactly as he says.
Men who abuse women do it because they get away with it. The women are either too scared to tell someone or they really believe this time is the last time and he won’t ever do it again. Because hey, he said sorry and that it was the last time and he loves her more than anything… So that means he’ll stop, right?
The problem with this mentality, though, is that it is taught to girls at a young age. We are taught that if a boy is “mean” to us that means he likes us. What kind of nonsense is that? Girls, especially teenage girls, want boys to like them. So what are we teaching them when we say boys are mean to you when they like you?
We are teaching them that it is okay for men to be mean to them because that is how they show they “care”. This thought process is completely wrong but pushed upon young girls because “boys will be boys”.
Why don’t we start teaching boys it is not okay to be mean to girls? And start teaching girls that if a boy is mean to her, he is not a boy she needs to be around. Our society has to start shifting and realize that this is happening way too often and it’s because we are allowing it.
We are allowing domestic violence to occur because of our excuses of “boys will be boys” and “girls should know better.” It is not the woman’s fault when a guy hits her and it never will be.
Men who abuse women are cowards and one day, domestic violence will not transpire as often because the millennial generation is asking for a change and we will get it.
No one deserves to be beaten by someone they love and no one should believe that someone who loves them would do that.
If you have been a victim of domestic violence please share this piece and voice how important it is for domestic violence to have more awareness. “Help change the facts. Speak up, speak out, and make a difference for victims of domestic violence.”
Also, if you ever need to contact someone because you are in need of help due to domestic violence here is a helpline that is anonymous 1−800−799−7233.
Please remember to look for warning signs when you are falling for someone, you are special, loved, and very important. No one want’s anything bad to happen to you, especially by someone who should only be there to protect you, not hurt you!
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